Hello chat, I am seeking some guidance. I have been seeing a man for eight months who is currently homeless. He recently secured a job that pays him nearly $1,000 a week. He occasionally assists me with expenses, such as bills, but I am beginning to feel overwhelmed. He frequently wants to come over to take a shower and seems unaware of personal boundaries
. It has reached a point where he invites himself to bring his gaming console and set it up without my permission. I am 23 years old, and he is 39. I moved out at 19 and, despite facing financial challenges, I consistently manage to pay my bills on time. I have a concern that he may be love bombing me; he fulfills all my requests, but I question whether this is due to his lack of stable housing or support. He mentioned that the last time he lived independently was 11 years ago, and since then, he has been living with his sister or mother until they asked him to leave. Do you believe I am being taken advantage of? What are your thoughts on this situation? Should I consider ending this relationship? He has made comments like, ‘you owe me,’ which he implies refers to 🍆💦…, and I am starting to feel uneasy about the circumstances. “TL: DR”
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Yes, he is taking advantage of you. And yes, you need to break up with him and change the locks.
“You owe me” is disgusting. This much older man is toxic, manipulative, and a loser.
You didn’t go through all that hardship just to be dragged down by this guy.
Usually women do this, but the advice I give is the same. Tell them it is over from behind your door and call the police if he stalks you.
The biggest problem with homeless exes is they have a lot of time to make your life hell.
This is not a healthy relationship and he is taking advantage of you. Break up and find someone your own age in the same phase of life.
Yes, it very clearly sounds like you are being taken advantage of.
If I were homeless, I would NOT be looking for a younger person to take care of me. I would be focusing on improving myself so that I could be in a position to date an equal.
If I somehow wound up in a position where I had a much younger SO while still unhoused, I would NEVER say or imply that they owed me for the generous use of my dick. Major yuck. Major misogyny.