So my bf (24) and I (22F) have been together for quite some time now..he had an ex fiancé and they broke up. She treated him terribly but I can’t help but wonder if he actually wants me or if I’m even good enough for him..to make fiancé status. The type of man he is..he’s so great..so kind and everything I specifically want in a man. I don’t want to fuck it up with my anxiety and over thinking and end up self sabotaging. My therapist and I work through it.
I ask my bf for reassurance and he gives it to me with no problems! I just don’t feel as confident and I kind of find myself comparing..I look nothing like her I’m the opposite of what his type seems to be..so it’s not exactly helping my case..I feel as through I cant or that I’m not deserving of him..and that he’s gonna get tired of me and leave me. We never argue or have any toxic relationship issues. We are pretty healthy. He says he wants me to be his wife..I just feel like there’s a certain level I have to reach. I also get insecure cause he follows women that he use to talk to and date and when I bring up how it makes me uncomfortable he has no problem with deleting and blocking them. He’s so good to me. I just don’t want my anxiety to get in the way..!
Any coping skills? Other than communication? We’ve got plenty of that!
TLDR: I don’t feel good enough for my bf, I’m looking for coping skills and ways to work through this rough patch.
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feeling inadequate is a common experience, especially in relationships. It might be helpful to take a step back and assess what specifically makes you feel this way. Open communication with your partner can also be beneficial; sharing your feelings may help both of you understand each other better.
I would really encourage you to work with a therapist to get to the root of your insecurities. It sounds like you are questioning your worth and this relationship sounds important to you.