My (m23) relationship with my girlfriend (f23) has always been rocky. Mostly there are a few patterns which keep on repeating in our relationship.
We will be happy and doing something together, then suddenly she starts questioning me and bringing up old things from our relationship where i had done her wrong. These scenarios usually lead to 3-6 hours of verbal abuse from her and me trying to keep my cool. Some of the things that happen include threat os self harm, calling my parents and loved ones, making me do things i dont want to, and eventually it ends with me revolting or raising my voice or being verbally abusive in return.
Another one is where when we are having disagreements she will ask me to block her, break up with her, and cut off all contacts and stop forcing her to stay with me. But if i agree with her requests she will revolt and come back saying how easy it is for me to get over her. But in this scenario if i tell her no and deny cutting off contacts with her she will accuse me of forcing her to stay. In such scenarios i feel she could be the one to block me on all contacts too, but she asks me to do it, and i am put in a situation where i can neither deny nor accept her request. So what should i do in such scenario? I really want to know
TL;DR: my gf asks me to breakup with her but when i agree to her she gets more angry, if i disagree with her she accuses me of forcing her to stay, what do i do?
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Break up. You can’t fix this, only she can. She needs a professional to help her deal with her BPD, you aren’t trained to do so.
She is not well enough to be in a relationship. Is she in therapy and taking medication? Someone’s mental health does not excuse them being abusive to you. You are not safe in this relationship and need to leave.