Two weeks ago I came out and told my mom that I had spent $1600 on various video game add-ons (2k VC, CFB 26 CUT Points, etc.) but that someone had taken $1400 from my bank account (a lie). She obviously was angry and told me no video games until I got a job. I called my bank and got the money back. Playstation suspended my account for chargebacks because as stated above I had lied about my spending, I spent the whole $3000 myself, there was no card compromise. How do I now explain to her that I did spend $3000 on video games not $1400 like I literally just told her and I need her help paying back the debt. I have the money to pay it but my card won’t let me bulk buy the gift cards. My mother is the most supportive person I know. Thru all the lies, she continues to be my biggest advocate. I’m just scared for this one because we just went down this road 2 weeks ago.
For added context I am a chronic liar. She hardly trusts me anymore because I’ve lied to her constantly for the last few years.
TL;DR I lied to my mom about money and now I need help with, shocker, money.
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You are hurting the only person in your corner. You are using her
I hope you feel ashamed about yourself
You are going to lose her if you don’t change and stop expecting her to bail you out
My guy you need therapy. You’re 18 and need to take accountability for your disease. You’re legally an adult. She isn’t responsible for your stupidity anymore.
First of all, admitting it to yourself is huge so congratulations. Now you have to admit it to mom. I used to lie about the stupidest shit ever for no reason, and that made it even easier to lie about big things.
I’ll tell you what I tell my own kids. Part of growing up into a good adult means taking responsibility and being accountable for your actions. It’s fucking hard, but it’s also going to lift a weight off of your shoulders.
Listen… us moms love y’all. Okay? We know y’all are gonna mess up bc we sure messed up a lot. Most of us remember what it’s like to be young. She’s probably gonna be mad. Take your licks like an adult, and y’all will get through it.
Go to the bank. Take the money out with her. Give it to her.
Buddy, you’re 18 now. Get a job and repay it on your own. If your mom continues to just save your ass, you will NEVER learn from this mistake as there isn’t a consequence.
Accept the consequence, do the work to fix the problem, make better choices moving forward. You can do it. Good luck!
You need the stand on your own two feet. It’s your debt, you service it. You need to start being accountable for your actions.
If you manage that, you might just feel the need to lie dissipate.
I don’t understand why you need to buy gift cards? Iss that to get your PS account back in good standing?
I used to lie and steal from my family when I was young. I’m 30 now and I’ve sworn off that for years. I wish I had never done it because I feel like I ruined my relationship with my family. I was a jerk from 18 to 24. Please, own up to your mistakes. Be honest with yourself and your mom. Oh and your therapist. You are only cheating and hurting yourself when you’re lying like this.