Break up or make up? (Long)

Hi, sorry for the long ass post. If you’re bored, this is for you.

Tl;dr
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years, and things were mostly good. Until her dad started interfering. After a small argument during his visit, he demanded I leave our shared home for 2 weeks. My girlfriend just echoed his words instead of speaking for herself. Even her sister admitted the overreaction came from him. I’m now realizing I don’t want a relationship where her dad’s opinion outweighs ours.

Actual post:

My girlfriend (26y) of 2 years and I (25y) have had a pretty great relationship all in all. I love her, we have similar plans for the future and we mostly share the same values. She’s honestly the best looking woman I’ve met and the sex is just godly.

We have had our share of issues, like in any relationship. Mostly revolving around house chores etc. minor things, but also some deeper issues, such as my respect towards her (she’s pretty dumb in many common things, at least in my eyes). She’s also a highly sensitive person and I dont’t think I could be any further from that. We also differ in how much we need alone time. However, these issues have been discussed many times and mostly solved.

Then the biggest issue, and a foundation for this post is that my girlfriend tells her dad everything. We have talked about boundaries before, but she tells him about every argument we have, so naturally her dad only heard bad things about me.

This weekend something really crazy happened. Her dad and sister came to stay with us for five days. Right before their arrival, we had a heated but pretty normal argument. I ended up yelling (because she wouldn’t take my word) at her for doing something stupid and I wanted to leave the space but she grabbed my hand so I pushed her away. Not hard, just a normal push. Anyway, the next day the quests arrived, and I was pretty bummed out so I wasn’t as talkative as normally and she ended up blaming me for not being kind to her family, but these first two days were pretty normal.

Then, the next day when we were going to bed, my girlfriend and her family couldn’t sleep so they just kept doing whatever so that I couldn’t get more than 3h of sleep (mind that I were working and had to wake up early, while they were all on vacation). So, the following day, I was really tired and upset. I kept mostly to myself and informed her many times that tonight I would need a lot of sleep because of the day before. She said “ok”, but when I went to bed around 10pm, they insisted on having an evening tea on our patio with a door to our bedroom. I said “alright, have your tea but do it fast.” Then she walked in and told me that they weren’t tired and they were gonna take showers and whatnot. That’s when I lost it. I ended up yelling at her again and leaving the house to sleep somewhere else.

The next day, I realized I had acted stupidly and sent her an apology text from work. She didn’t reply. I sent more texts guidelining the following days and what we can do to make the visit better for everyone. No answer. When I got home, her dad came and gave me a whole speech about how much I had hurt his daughter and that she needed a 2 week break to heal. I was like “No, I can’t leave my own house for 2 weeks, I have work.” He said that since my girlfriend had lived in the apartment longer than I had, she would get to stay there (we have lived together 1,5 years). I didn’t want to make them any more upset so I agreed to stay 2 days in a hotel. This wasn’t enough. I went to speak with my girlfriend directly, but she just kept repeating her dad’s words. I tried to make her see how outrageous they were being, but she didn’t say anything about how she felt, only what her dad told me before.

Their dad also speaks a different language which I am not fluent in, so the sister told me what they have talked about, both when I was there and when I wasn’t. I talked to her sister and she said that all these ideas were their dad’s. She said that my girlfriend had proposed that I slept in a different room for a night, but her dad insisted that I would have to leave for 2 whole weeks and even suggested for her to break up with me. So, I left in hopes of their feelings cooling down, but nothing is yet to change. This is now my second night away from home.

The sister is in shock about what’s happening and so am I. This was such a normal argument that got a little heated, but her dad is acting as if I have beat her to death or something. I even brought them flowers and made their favourite food in order to apologize (even though, I don’t think I’m in the wrong here).

Now that I’ve had time to think, I don’t think I could stay in this relationship, even if we do end up making up. I don’t want to be in a relationship where opinions of people outside the relationship outweigh ours. Really, what’s keeping me from breaking up right now is that I don’t think I could ever find a more beautiful and caring woman.

What are your thoughts on this?