We’re both 19 and together, but lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m the only one making the effort in our relationship. I understand that she’s not really into social media or chatting a lot, and I respect her space. She spends most of her time watching C-dramas, K-dramas, or other shows — and I don’t mind that.
But sometimes, I feel invisible. I always try to be there for her, listen, support her, and make time — but I don’t feel like I get the same energy back. I’m not asking for 24/7 attention, I just want to feel appreciated and valued too.
I don’t want to sound clingy or demanding. I just want to feel like I matter. Is it wrong to want a bit more effort and attention from the person you love? How do I talk to her about this without making her feel pressured?
TL;DR:
[M19] I feel like I’m the only one putting effort into my relationship with my girlfriend [F19]. She doesn’t message much and spends most of her time watching shows. I support her but feel unnoticed. Is it wrong to want more effort back, and how can I bring it up gently?
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Just tell her flat out. It isn’t a sensitive topic that you should beat it around the bush. Your needs are as important as hers. See how she responds and if she’ll follow through with any promises of change if she does that. Good luck, OP o7. Remember that you accept the love you believe you deserve, always give yourself grace and respect
You should def convey your feelings to her. Sit with her and be clear with it. And no you dont sound clingy or demanding. You do matter and you should also enjoy being in the relationship.
Sit with her , grab a snack and just talk to her openly. She ll understand . GL