TLDR: i (f32) found an erotic conversation on my partners (m35) phone which he had generated using an ai chat box.
I (f) am currently full term in my pregnancy and awaiting the arrival of our baby any day. I needed to make a vet appointment for our dog who has not been well and my partner of 5 years (m)was busy talking to some workmen that are in our house. I had asked him to do it earlier but he mentioned he hadnt had a chance in between meetings. I thought it would be helpful for me to arrange the appointment but I because i cannot drive just now due to medication knew it would need to be my partner that takes the dog. Without giving it much thought I picked up his phone with the intention of checking his work diary so I had some availability ahead of the call. When I unlocked the phone there was an incognito tab open with an ai generated chat box and it was an erotic exchange awaiting his next reply.
I felt sick when I saw it. I think mainly because I feel like I’ve breached his privacy (albeit truly unintentionally) but there’s also a part of me in shock as this isn’t something I would have ever imagined him doing nor has he ever spoken about this. I’m an emotional mess at the moment and this has really shaken me. Not sure how best to handle this and whether best to approach the conversation and risk upsetting and embarrassing him or just try and draw a line under this. I should add as soon as I saw the page yes I read part of it but I locked his phone and didnt go “snooping” for anything else.
On reflection I wish I didnt look at his phone at all but in the moment I was trying to do a good thing and take a job off his plate.