Last night me (25M) and my partner (25F) had sex for the first time in our relationship (we’ve been together 3 months basically). It didn’t last long and I wound up ending it all prematurely and having my first legit panic attack in years because I thought the condom broke and worried about her getting pregnant. Luckily, My girlfriend is amazing and understanding of all my mental health issues so she comforted and reassured me through the night. But it was still a very embarrassing and humiliating experience and I feel like I failed. All because I allowed my my anxiety to run rampant because I’m scared of the idea of having to deal with a pregnancy.
TL;DR Has anyone else dealt with panic attacks after intercourse or deal with the same anxieties? Any tips on overcoming this so I can be a better partner in the future?
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two things: first, continue to communicate with your partner who sounds amazing. second, BELIEVE your partner. what i mean is, when she says, stuff like, don’t worry, it wasn’t a big deal to me. BELIEVE HER. stop bringing it up, stop thinking you’re messing up, and just trust that the situation is over with and she is fine with it. if you keep bringing it up, it becomes exhausting. trust her and move on.
I have a panic attack disorder. I kind of just lived with them until it got really bad. Then Ibsaw a psychiatrist and was diagnosed and I take a medication