I (F22) feel emotionally drained in my marriage to my husband (M22) of 2 years, and unsure how to move forward.

I’m a 22-year-old woman, currently in nursing school with no kids. My husband is 22. We’ve been together about 2 years. I wasn’t very physically attracted to him from the beginning, but I thought emotional connection and shared goals would be enough because it’s not always about looks. He’s an immigrant, and I also felt that marrying him would help him with his legal status. We agreed he would support me while I focus on school, and I’d contribute financially after graduation.

In the beginning, he seemed kind and very attentive—maybe even overly so. He said all the right things and made promises to be supportive. But over time, his behavior changed. When upset, he used to throw things (he has since stopped after I told him how triggering that was for me). He has also yelled and called me deeply hurtful names during arguments. Though he apologizes afterward and says he was just angry, it doesn’t undo the damage.

He frequently brings up the fact that I’m not contributing financially—even though we had agreed on this from the start. When he provides or does anything for us, he reminds me constantly or uses it to guilt me. I don’t feel supported—I feel like a burden.

I’ve asked for small gestures to show he cares—like flowers or a planned outing—but he doesn’t make those efforts unless I push him. He forgot our anniversary and did very little for my birthday until I nagged him about it. He’s inconsistent with working, lacks motivation, and rarely takes initiative in our relationship. I feel like I’m taking care of everything emotionally and mentally, while also trying to keep up with nursing school.

I’m emotionally exhausted. I don’t feel the same way about him anymore, and I feel more like his caretaker than his partner. He keeps promising to change and occasionally shows effort, but it feels too late. I don’t know if I’m wrong for wanting to leave—I just know I feel stuck and unhappy.

TL;DR:
I (F22) married my husband (MM22) two years ago. He promised to support me through nursing school but now resents me for not contributing financially. He has used hurtful language in arguments, makes minimal effort in the relationship, and rarely works consistently. I feel emotionally drained and more like a caretaker than a partner. I’m unsure if this relationship is still worth saving.