Hi first of all thank you to everyone that replied to my original post. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/E67kLyjMBu
I didn’t think i would have a update this quick. This all happed yesterday but today i found out after I confronted him he went back on hinge that evening, after he said he deleted it. I guess he still hasn’t figured out i am logged into his gmail but again he received a email and this time an invoice from apple, subscription confirmation for hinge. He paid for hinge+
So i asked him again “are you on any dating apps or websites” and he lied and said no. I told him that i know so he confesses he did do that.
But that is not everything, because i am logged into his gmail i can also see his google search history and youtube watch history. And in his search history i found he was looking up things about tinder, which told me enough. I asked if he also made a tinder profile and he confirmed. And still he is saying it was just to make friends and he hasn’t talked or messaged anyone on it.
He doesn’t know why he did it and i also don’t understand why. After i confronted him, he said he panicked and made it worse by getting hinge+ and not telling me he was also on tinder because he was scared.
End of the story i’m done with his lies and it’s over between us.
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You have self respect and dump him.
You don’t wonder why.
He did it cause he wants to cheat. He wants to cheat because he’s not addressing something within himself.
You dump him.
You move on.
He gets to be on apps and not lie.
Everyone wins.
No he fucking didn’t
It’s heartbreaking to see trust broken so easily but I hope you’re finding peace in knowing you’ve made the right choice… just remember to take a moment to breathe and focus on what comes next, whether that’s rebuilding your life or simply giving yourself time to heal.
Break up with him. Dude didnt consult you or communicate with you about making friends on a dating app. You absolutely MUST communicate with your partner if youre looking to make friends on such apps. He was on there to cheat and nothing more.
If you’re here asking, you already know.
Leave him.
I’ve never seen someone “panic” and sign up for a dating app subscription. Just saying.
You get rid of him before one of his friends gives you something you can’t cure w penicillin.
And you go get a full STD / STI workup done.
he panicked and got hinge+…..
I always pay for things when I panic…. my Harley… I bough it cause I panicked. The house I live in…. I panicked.
come on girl
Yeah, hinge isn’t for making “friends”…maybe friends with benefits…. Good thing you left
Good for you. What a slimebag – his excuse is bullshit, Bumble is the app for making friends the others are explicitly for dating. He just couldn’t bear to tell you the truth that he was planning to cheat/already cheating.
I’m so sorry it took four whole years for this side of him to reveal itself.
People dont find “friends” on hinge.
You go pick up a hobby to make friends. Hinge is to get laid
No one goes on hinge, dating apps in general, to make friends. It’s a lie. He wants to make friends there are many other ways to do it, NOT on a dating site.
UPDATE: I F/22 found out that my boyfriend of 4 years M/24 made a hinge account “to make friends”. How do i handle this?
> End of the story i’m done with his lies and it’s over between us.
Best line in this update, great job girl! It’s so short and sweet that half the commenters here are gonna miss it 😂
Downloading dating apps and making up bad lies to try to explain it… man, even if he wasn’t a cheater, he sure is stupid. You did good to call him on his bullshit so quick, but you did phenomenally for ending it so quick instead of getting caught up in it.