There are a few things which I find annoying, and I don’t know what to do about it, I don’t know how not to get annoyed:
- My boyfriend makes so many sounds. He makes random noises throughout the day, he sometimes sings (he calls it singing. In my opinion, it is rather making random noises, not singing), he chews with his mouth open (I’ve been asking him for so long to stop doing that, but he still does it time to time). And often when I ask him to be quiet, he feels like I am trying to limit him (which maybe I am doing, but I just want quietness).
I, on the other hand, am quiet person, I hardly ever make any sounds. Rarely I might turn on music and sing along, but if I am asked to stop – I don’t care, I don’t have any problems with stopping. And if I am being honest, I wish my partner were the same.
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I know that it is none of my business, that it is my boyfriend’s life, and should not concern me. But it annoys me that every single day for a huge part of the day, he plays computer games (for the context, both of us are currently unemployed). Even when he plays quietly, I still find it annoying, it seems so childish. I don’t even know why it annoys me because logically speaking – it shouldn’t. Maybe it annoys me because it seems like my boyfriend doesn’t have any ambitions, any more serious interests at all, even though he is looking for a job, so it is not like he plays 24/7.
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I find it annoying that he interrupts me sometimes. I might be telling something and instead of listening, my boyfriend might interrupt me and tell me “I know what you are going to say”, and often his assumptions are wrong. He sometimes does the same when he asks me a question and instead of letting me answer, he responds to his assumption of my answer… I’ve been asking him to stop doing that, but he still does it. Also I find it annoying that he doesn’t learn from his mistakes because clearly his assumptions often are wrong, but he keeps on making them.
How can I stop getting annoyed?
TL;DR: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years, but I find some things about my boyfriend annoying, so I need advice on how not to get annoyed
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I don’t think you are compatible.
Are you on bc? It can make you irritable. Or did you recently quit smoking or some other habit? Another thing that makes ppl crabby
You need to tell him what bothers you and then see if he does anything to help make it better.
You’ve got a few choices:
Figure out how to live with it. Do therapy or hypnosis or something to try to keep yourself from being triggered. Or just deal with the annoyance.
Try to get him to change his behavior.
End it, because you don’t want to be annoyed for the rest of your relationship.
Just know that you are very unlikely to find someone who doesn’t irritate you in some way.