Link to first update and original plot (it was lost)
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/pSOMv5Ek7A
Wow that last update was a lot huh? Anyone else exhausted?😮💨
I figured at least another week would go by before I had another update BUT welcome to crazy.
Anyway , I CALLED THE POLICE. 🥳
And I think the situation got worse. Lol
I got home from work today and there’s a plant festival happening right on my street..lots of car noises. I had just gotten home and have been locking the door behind me after entering, but apparently today it slipped my mind. I had been home for maaaaybe 30 minutes before hearing the familiar rumble of my mother’s car.
I almost thought it was street sounds , but heard it pull into my driveway. I got up to check my door lock , but apparently the walk was too long because by the time I got there she was already there. She was attempting to open my door and I leaned up against it. She was yelling at me through the door demanding we talk. I Told her to leave. I kept trying to lock the door but the lock wasn’t turning… I realized SHE WAS HOLDING THE KNOB IN PLACE. I kept telling her to leave.. I called the police and she’s screaming the whole time in the background. The operator was kind of an asshole about the situation, kept making me clarify my address and wouldn’t let me refer to her as “a trespasser” . Operator kept insisting what my relationship to her was and how well i knew them.
Finally she tells me she’s sending someone.. as soon as I hung up the phone my mother pushed her way in ..I kept trying to push her back out and she shoved her body into me and ran to my living room..
I did manage to get a video of her shoving her way into my house as I’m demanding she leave. Police took FOREVER to show up. I met them outside telling them that she’s in my house and won’t get out, that she shoved her way in and was keeping me from locking my door .
The police officer was agitated that she was making him go get her. I politely asked him to get her out of my house and he sternly told me to leave the room..? And then let her open up a conversation in my kitchen??
He then asked me if she’s on the lease and idk how many freaking times I told them that she doesn’t live here and has no association with my house. Officer then makes both of us step outside. I asked them why they’re treating this like a domestic dispute instead of a call I just made about someone breaking into my home…
Officer told me it wasn’t my turn to speak.
Then proceeded to inform my mother of the existence of grandparents rights 🥹 about how she can petition for them.. she snickered and said “ooooh I can do that???”
Then proceeded to give her a breakdown of instructions on how to open a case against me.
By this point my boyfriend showed up from work.. right before the police showed I had sent him the video of her pushing herself into the home with no other context because I didn’t know what to do and the police weren’t there yet. He left work because I guess he was worried.
The police wouldn’t even let him up the steps to our home . ( She was sitting on them while talking to one of the officers) *Son was locked away in his room this entire motion of chaos btw **
My boyfriend got agitated and said he didn’t want her near our house and a different officer approached him for a statement. I’m not sure what they discussed… Officers finally got a statement from me .. they asked me questions about ownership of the house and leasing information AGAIN. I informed them AGAIN that she doesn’t effing live here.
I told them that this is the 4th time she’s berating my door and how she showed up at my job..
The officer informed me that I can go to magistrate and get a no contact and a bunch of information I already knew , but isn’t quick enough.
So yeah. They did nothing, I’m not even totally sure they made an official police report. (They didn’t give me a card) They let her leave… Police had to leave the driveway so she could pull out and whole time she’s screaming out her window that i really messed up now. The police made me bring my son out to speak to him .. so I’m glad he gets to add that to the trauma list 🙃
It's been about 3 hours now and she's been texting my boyfriend long tangents about how sorry I'm going to be and that if I don't let her see my son she's opening a child protective order on me and how she's got all this proof and blah blah. . Spoiler there's no proof.. But, this is going to be exhausting..
Boyfriend was going to block her but I told him not to so I can collect the messages as evidence to show the magistrate on Monday .
Comments
Contact the police commander and report the dispatcher and police behavior. Get a protection order and contact a lawyer. Save all video and all text for your case. Keep nutball away from your family.
Holy hell those cops suck and just handed your mother the perfect way to fuck with you. You need to call the higher ups and explain what’s going on and how this situation was handled, because they dropped the freaking ball.
Make sure your house is CPS ready. Document and write down all the harassment you can think of. Get cameras if you can send double check you ALWAYS lock your doors. Teach your son to lick the doors.
Batten down the hatches. She’s going to get worse.
Updateme
LAWYER A FUCKING SAP
You need to make a complaint against every one of those officers and the dispatcher. Take it all the way up the chain of command. Also, make a complaint to the attorney general and your sate’s Bar Association that the police officer was practicing law without a license. Many states take that very seriously.
Get a consultation with a lawyer as soon as you can. An experienced lawyer can tell you exactly what you can do to thwart a grandparent’s right suit.
Do Not block her. But also, under no circumstance, do you respond to her. Let her words indict her.
Shut down your social media, too.
Keep your son close by and do not let her around him at all.
You also need cameras around your house and for heaven’s sake, lock your doors, and teach your son to lock the doors.
ETA: make sure your son’s school knows she is not allowed to see him or pick him up. Every teacher, the principal, and everyone in between needs to know she cannot come near your son; can’t send him gifts; can’t drop anything off for him; can’t volunteer around him.
Do your siblings have a relationship with her? What about your Dad?