Okay so idk if I’m crazy or what but something WEIRD is going on and I need y’all to tell me if I’m overreacting or if I should be calling like, Dr. Phil or the FBI or something.
So my husband (33M) has this step mom (I think she’s like 48F? idk but she looks like she sells fancy candles and does yoga with crystals) and they been close since his dad married her like 10 years ago. Whatever. I ain’t never had a problem with her before except she hugs him for like 3 minutes straight and calls him “my little man” which is weird cuz he’s 6’2 and bald but whatever.
So last weekend we at her house for some BBQ and everything’s normal until she brings out this homemade “gut healing smoothie” and says it’s just for him.He drinks it and then she wipes the corner of his mouth with a napkin like he’s 4 and she’s like “see? mama takes care of her baby.” And I LAUGHED cuz I thought it was a joke but they both looked at me like I farted in church.
Then things got weirder. She starts talking about how when he was a teen she used to rub his back until he fell asleep (again, SHE’S HIS STEP MOM not his mom) and he goes “aw yeah those were the days” and I swear to god I saw her wink at him.
I was like “okay maybe this is just some rich people boundary-less shit” but then after dinner she’s like “you should stay the night, you can sleep in the guest room and husband can sleep in the big bed like he used to.” I said EXCUSE ME and she goes “oh I meant you both can sleep in there” but then adds “unless you wanna sleep separate, I know how you like your space.”
Y’all. I left. I’m at my cousin’s house right now eating Cheetos and wondering if I need an exorcist or a lawyer.
Husband keeps texting me like “why are you mad? she’s just being nice.” Am I trippin?? Do I just not understand fancy step mom love?? Do I need therapy or a taser??
Advice appreciated. I love him but this is giving… emotional Game of Thrones.
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It’s definitely a unique relationship.
Sleeping in the same bed as your step mom is pretty wild.
Ok, all of that would give me pause and think something hinky was going on. They’re acting like lovers not stepmom and stepson.
lol this is well written. First, i would like to know if you’re enjoying your Cheetos? Second, you may need to an exorcist, lawyer, therapy and a taser.
To me, considering she has been married to his dad for ten years I think they have slept together or maybe still are.
It’s weird as fuck.
Don’t answer him for a few days then go home and ask straight up if they have ever fucked and then tell him it’s weird as shit and he needs to put a stop to it because as it stands now this looks like some weird mommy kink.
I mean she is his step mom, not his actual mom so its not unheard of that they had a relationship at some point behind his dad’s back.
That said, you really never noticed this before now? He’s your husband after all, so unless you guys were married just yesterday or something, I find it hard to believe you never really noticed anything between them until recently.
Either way, at least this is a good experience for you to know your future partner’s family a bit better after you divorce this one. This situation isn’t worth the headache to understand tbh and they honestly wont just come out and tell you everything just because you ask.