My mom has 2 half Yorkie half Maltese dogs, these dogs are my mom’s world. The problem is they are obsessed with food, they will go to any lengths to get human food. It started with a bag of barbecue potatoes chips on my kitchen counter ripped open and devoured, leaving a huge barbeque dust mess
Next was an entire pizza that was snatched off of the table the moment I went to grab sodas from the kitchen. In the span of less than a minute when I returned half of the pizza was gone, the dogs were standing in the other half of the pizza and there was pizza sauce all over my carpet.
Next get together they found there way inside even tho I asked my mom to keep them in the backyard. They got into my kitchen and tore open 2 bags of hamburger buns, and ate around 40 dollars worth of seasoned raw hamburger meat and a block of cheddar cheese. At this point I told my mother her dogs were not allowed at my home. She has stopped coming by altogether, which does hurt my feelings because if it’s a choice between her kid and the dogs she will always pick the dogs.
I’m planning a family vacation, booked a nice cabin for the whole family to stay in. My sister is bringing her dog (well behaved female Pitt) so I know it’s going to be an issue when I tell my mom her dogs are not allowed to come with us. I don’t want to spend the whole weekend making sure not a single scrap of food is left out for even a second otherwise her dogs with tear it apart and potentially make a huge mess in the cabin I paid the deposit on.
My sister told me to just tell my mom that she has to keep a close eye on her dogs but I have tried that before and shes proven time and time again that she’s either unable or unwilling to control her dogs behavior.
WIBTA if I tell my mom her food crazed dogs are not allowed on family vacation even tho another dog will be there?
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My mom has 2 half Yorkie half Maltese dogs, these dogs are my mom’s world. The problem is they are obsessed with food, they will go to any lengths to get human food. It started with a bag of barbecue potatoes chips on my kitchen counter ripped open and devoured, leaving a huge barbeque dust mess
Next was an entire pizza that was snatched off of the table the moment I went to grab sodas from the kitchen. In the span of less than a minute when I returned half of the pizza was gone, the dogs were standing in the other half of the pizza and there was pizza sauce all over my carpet.
Next get together they found there way inside even tho I asked my mom to keep them in the backyard. They got into my kitchen and tore open 2 bags of hamburger buns, and ate around 40 dollars worth of seasoned raw hamburger meat and a block of cheddar cheese. At this point I told my mother her dogs were not allowed at my home. She has stopped coming by altogether, which does hurt my feelings because if it’s a choice between her kid and the dogs she will always pick the dogs.
I’m planning a family vacation, booked a nice cabin for the whole family to stay in. My sister is bringing her dog (well behaved female Pitt) so I know it’s going to be an issue when I tell my mom her dogs are not allowed to come with us. I don’t want to spend the whole weekend making sure not a single scrap of food is left out for even a second otherwise her dogs with tear it apart and potentially make a huge mess in the cabin I paid the deposit on.
My sister told me to just tell my mom that she has to keep a close eye on her dogs but I have tried that before and shes proven time and time again that she’s either unable or unwilling to control her dogs behavior.
WIBTA if I tell my mom her food crazed dogs are not allowed on family vacation even tho another dog will be there?
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NTA but just say “no dogs” to avoid hurt feelings. Is that an option?
NTA
But INFO:
How are these small dogs getting items from counters and tables?
NTA
Good luck, it sounds like you will need it. If your mom showed you before that she chooses her dogs over coming to your house, I’m fairly certain she won’t come to the cabin.
NTA, if you let the dogs go you’ll ruin any relaxation you’re attempting to get. Can you say something like there’s a strict AirBnB owner pet limit of 1 dog and you already told your sister that she could bring hers? Or say no dogs altogether and your sister can make arrangements…or just say the full truth – “sorry, mom, I just don’t want to have to worry about dogs on my vacation.”
Does the insurance on the cabin cover the Pit? Some breeds are excluded from coverage. Unfortunately, your sister couldn’t bring her dog either, but then you could give a blanket no dogs rule.
Nope, NTA.
If your mom is going to insist on her feral destructo-mutts being included, she needs to book the accommodations and be responsible for the deposit.
Otherwise she’s just going to have to be content with staying in the doghouse. Even if she does step up for that, I wouldn’t share accommodations with animals that are so out of control. Sorry, not sorry, but I wouldn’t tolerate every meal turning into a battle to keep my food.
This is a hard one, I TOTALLY understand where you’re coming from. I have 3 dogs, one of which is HORRIBLE around food, so she’s not allowed around it, especially with company.
Your mom should understand after everything her dogs have done, that at some point enough is enough. She has to take responsibility as well, as they are her pets, and if she’s said she would watch them or keep them outside and couldn’t, then ya, they should be left at home.
INFO: Crate the dogs when food is in play?
NTA but your mum is. I get some dogs are incredibly food driven (I have labs) but you need to up the training to teach them not to get into food. It is incredibly dangerous for the dogs to be eating whatever they like. If your mum can’t train them, she needs to employ a professional, for the dogs sake.
NTA, but you already know your mother won’t come with this restriction. She won’t come to your home if her dogs aren’t welcome – she won’t come on vacation if her dogs aren’t welcome.
It’s your mother and your relationship, so you get to choose the hill to die on. Personally, I’d just not invite her anywhere except brief outings like restaurants where her dogs can’t come, if at all. It sounds like she prefers the company of her dogs over people anyway – otherwise she’d train her dogs.
Geez they are worse than my little Princess. She thinks she needs to eat whenever we eat. To be fair, I was told she had terminal liver disease and I starting feeding her off my plate because she would hardly eat anything. 6 months later she was not only not dead, but turning into Fatty McFatFat. Liver test performed again, she was normal and now we have a spoiled rotten dog. How can little dogs get stuff off tables or countertops? My princess will stand under the dining room table or my granddaughter’s high chair or just hang out wherever food is being prepared to clean up any droppings off the floor. Of course the granddaughters love to feed her too.
I understand, but can’t you make sure food is kept where they can’t get to it?
How about your mom has to take care of the dog/food situation if her dogs misbehave? She has to make sure food is put away, replace any/all food they get into and eat, and clean up their messes? It’s not everyone else’s responsibility to watch them. They are clearly not house trained like your sister’s fur baby. But if she’s not willing to do at least that then they shouldn’t come and create havoc that everyone else has to contend with.
That’s not good for the dogs. Is she clear on how dangerous some foods can be to dogs and how much all that salt and sugar are for them?
Nta, first of all just from the breed they sound absolutely adorable but the fact that she allows them to basically do whatever the fuck they want is borderline animal neglect especially when it comes to human food. Not only is that absolutely irresponsible as a pet owner, those dogs could end up dying from eating something toxic to dogs, solely because she refuses to actually train them to leave shit alone.
Nta. No seriously. Tell her if she shows up with the dogs you will not not allow in the cabin. She will not even be allowed to in pack be told to turn right around. She will test you. You will stand your stand your ground. Or. Better solution, don’t invite mom. She’s going to show up with those terrors even you tell her not to. So just don’t invite her. When she gets butt hurt about not being invited, make sure she knows it’s 1000% because of her little terrors.
And I bet mom would blame everyone else if the dogs ate something dangerous that made them sick or killed them…
Info: when your mom’s dogs are around, where is food being placed in the kitchen that allows dogs that small to get into that amount of food as dogs that small are far to short to have access to kitchen counter tops?
This is your moms fault. I have an extremely spoiled boxer. But I know it. So I don’t put him or other ppl in a position where it’s an issue. There’s no way your mom is oblivious to it. But yet there doesn’t seem to be any changes on her part. It’s incredibly selfish of her to assume her pets are automatically invited anyways but esp after the past incidents
ESH – Your mom is TA for having dogs and not training them. And you absolutely have the right to tell her not to bring her dogs – HOWEVER you know they are her world, and you are allowing dogs in general. Her dogs don’t endanger anyone’s safety, and don’t necessarily present a bio-hazard of any kind. So somewhat YWBTA for not giving her any heads-up or option regarding the situation.
Tell mom she can only bring her dogs if she pays the deposit to you UPFRONT, and make it clear that any dog messes, replacement food, and costs will be solely her responsibility.
She can get the deposit money back if there is no damage to the cabin.
If she gripes about that, THEN, given the dogs’ track record, you can ban them.
Normally I default to supporting dogs, but in this case NTA. I think it should probably be “no dogs allowed” though, so that you aren’t specifically excluding HER.
These dogs are going to end up extremely sick (or worse) if she doesn’t get this behavior under control. If she loves them so much she NEEDS to do something about it!
Info —
What is her reaction normally to their behavior? Is she apologetic, replacing food, helping to clean at all?
Her dogs destroyed food, made a mess in your house, and she still didn’t do anything? Yeah, no way would I let them into a rental cabin I paid a deposit on. NTA
I’m surprised those dogs aren’t dead.
NTA Your mom has already proven that she can’t be trusted to watch her own dogs. I wouldn’t even bother telling her that your sister’s dog is coming – it isn’t a “no dog” policy, it’s a “no badly trained, not supervised dogs” policy, which apparently only applies to her.
If she chooses to miss the family vacation for her dogs, there’s really nothing you can do about it.
How does an 8 pound (ok, 10#max) dog GET ON A KITCHEN COUNTER?? calling bs, unless you HAVE ramps that allow them access!!!!
How fricken big are these dogs Maltese Yorkie should be small how are they getting into these things
Tell her they have to be leashed or in an carrier the whole time or they can’t come. Tell her you require a deposit from her to confirm that she agrees to follow those rules.
NTA.
If you’re paying for this, you have a right to decide if dogs go or not. Sounds like your mom needs to learn to handle her dogs better, imo.
The only option I see is that she has to keep the dogs on a leash with her at all times when they are in the house and in a crate at night . She can turn them loose outside only. This isn’t your house and you need to get the deposit back.
Baby gates are your friend. They make them all sizes and if it’s an open concept, get them a portable play yard and make your mom put them in in. Make sure if you go that route, that you don’t get anything with cross bars they can climb. I have ones that look like prison bars. They are too close together to skinny through, no way to climb and too tall to hop over.
NTA As a mother of 6 adults and lover of pets, OP is doing the right thing to keep the untrained and uncontrolled dogs from the vacation. If OP’s mother chooses her dogs over the family, she’s only hurting herself.
NTA. If your mom doesn’t come, she doesn’t come. I assume the cabin is somewhere pretty secluded which normally means any grocery store is far away or going tk be super expensive.
Do you want to try and figure out food because your mom brought dogs that might get in and destroy everything.
NTA 100%, but damn your mom sure is.
How do toy dogs get on counter tops and kitchen tables?
Do they have a hidden superpower?