Well trying to set boundaries has once again blown up in our faces just when I thought our relationship with my MIL was getting better.
Low down: we planned 2 months ago to have a friend from out of town visit next weekend. My MIL announced 2 weeks ago she’s be up here again (she’s been up here 1-2x a month lately with little notice 😟) and wanted to stay at our house. Friday is her birthday. We offered to help pay for a hotel for her and my SIL. My friend who’s visiting doesn’t really like my MIL and I am tired of having my MIL here all the time.
Well my MIL threw a giant hissy fit and said we were awful for not making my friend stay in a hotel instead. We have a 2 yo and my MIL is lax with safety and doesn’t listen to our instructions for caring for him. I don’t feel comfortable with her taking my 2 yo out of daycare all day by herself on Friday. I just started a new job and can’t take PTO yet. It’s also his last day before he transfers to a new daycare and I’m pretty emotional about leaving this daycare center.
I’ve have had a rocky relationship with my mil and now sils, most recently since my son was born. They were pretty awful to us— not supportive and very selfish.
Ive had to push my husband to try and set boundaries with his mom. Hes the oldest and child of divorce so he was always responsible for the younger kids and his mom favored his sisters over him. She disregards his feelings and needs. He still tries to please her all the time.
We’re reaching out to my MILs parents for advice/ support. I don’t know what to do. I want to have a good relationship with her but she’s hurt me so much over the years. I’m tired of her pushing us around.
My therapist is out for a week and I needed to dump my feelings and words somewhere. Thanks if you read this far. ❤️🩹
Ps this is a throw away account since my primary account has the same user name as my other socials.
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