Why do the JNMIL blame the wives for their sons not doing something to their liking? Example being my MIL blames me and says I’m trying to isolate my husband from his family and friends and turn him into an introvert like me because we moved to the same town and live about 15 mins away from them but don’t see them often. (We did NOT move to this town to be closer to them. We did so because financially it was much easier on us). I’ve never done anything wrong to my JNMIL. I’ve always been respectful. My husband is a grown man in his 40’s. I don’t tell him who to visit. If he doesn’t want to visit his parents I’m not forcing him. Yet, somehow she finds a way to hold me accountable and blame me for him not visiting them! Why?? Anyone have any idea why she’s doing this or why any MIL’s act like this. I have given this woman NO reason to dislike me! I don’t get what her problem is and why she is making me responsible for a grown man’s actions! I’ve even told my husband he should visit her more but I don’t tell her that form one of two reasons. One, I don’t want to throw him under the bus and two, she won’t believe me anyway.
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They cannot admit that their sons would voluntarily stop putting them first, seeing them as much as MIL thinks he should. So, it has to be your fault…because it certainly can’t be hers!
They are delusional.