Should I explain why we’re no contact

We have a rocky history with what started as my MIL, still the primary problem, but has moved on to entire immediate family and MIL’s mom (guess she has to get it from somewhere lol!)

Previous posts explain in more detail but they liked me a lot until I made the decision to get a hysterectomy after 5 unsuccessful surgeries for endometriosis. I was in debilitating pain and it was honestly worst case scenario and in early 20’s.

MIL flipped out and begged me to not go through with it, sending me dr’s for 2nd opinions, crying at family functions and crying to my husband (we were dating for several years at this point) on if he really wanted to marry me because of this.

Once I went through with it they lost all respect for me and boundaries went out the window. They ruined our entire engagement and wedding with psychotic behavior. Sharing medical info against my wishes.

When I found out we could do surrogacy, I didn’t have my ovaries out at the time, they really pressured us into doing it. Telling his entire family I was doing it when I told her I wasn’t sure, it would be so hard on my body and we were excited and content with adoption. Cliff notes, ivf exploded my ovary and required emergency surgery, we ended up using an egg donor I didn’t tell them about. We had a later term miscarriage with our surrogate and decided to not do another transfer and go with our original plan of adoption.

When we told them there was a huge push back in the energy questioning why we would do that, and “unknown bad genes”, ironic as BIL is a fentanyl addict and a lot of cancer genes. We told them we were open to any race and drug exposure in utero, we just wanted to start our family and firmly believe every child, especially those that have a rough start in life withdrawing from drugs deserve love and support.

We asked GMIL to write us a reference letter, when we told her about the open preferences and at this point we had actively matched with an expectant mom where there was fentanyl exposure in utero and Hispanic, she flipped out. Calling and endless texts of our “damaged future child with issues” and she strongly wished we had “better standards and went through an agency”…. We did go through an agency though. I told her over and over that I have several adopted family members who all had drug exposure and they are happy and healthy, and it hurt so bad to basically say they’re damaged goods.

She then texted us that she was embarrassed that she wrote the letter when others found out and were also upset, and to not tell anyone ever that she “endorsed” adopting a damaged child and having such low standards…

Our match ended up falling through and we received an emergency placement of an amazing baby boy, birth mom did prenatal care and no drug exposure, he’s a big healthy boy. He is Hispanic which was part of the issue not being white, but I am Hispanic they forget all the time lol. Our bio children would be Hispanic.

Husband told them via text after we got home 2 weeks later, right before we made his birth announcement. They’ve sent a ton of texts and calls asking us to fly to them out of state with a 2 week old lol. Husband has gone back to no contact and answered no questions. They did ask if he had issues.

GMIL texted us in a groupchat yesterday saying why in the world would you ignore me and that we are users to get what we want (the letter she told us she was embarrassed writing). And that I am robbing her of her great grandmother experience because we won’t send more pictures.. along with other random nonsense. And MIL saying we’re awful for ignoring GMIL.

Husband wants to just ignore them says it’s not worth it, they clearly don’t even know what they did wrong. But I want to call them out on what they did wrong. From GMIL with the letter, BIL trying to talk husband out of marrying me before wedding, MIL telling me SIL is priority at our wedding and texting my mom no one is coming to my bridal shower because they’re going to one that she wanted to throw for my husband, FIL telling me to grow tf up for not inviting SIL who bullies me to bachlorette party and actually tried to ban BIL from husbands bachelor party if I didn’t let SIL go (she wasn’t a bridesmaid), family taking out $60k of student loans fraudulently in husbands name and credit cards maxed and so much in between.

So should I tell them all this stuff or just let them still reach out, I did change my number and block them all because I couldn’t handle seeing all the messages.