We never really struggled with money growing up, our parents were both very successful in their careers but worked very long hours so we grew up as latchkey kids.
When the parents were at home from work they seemed to not have any energy for us and so only had each other for comfort during hard times in our lives and became very physically affectionate with one another. They were very controlling so they didn’t allow either of us to date others when we were younger.
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How did the whole thing start? Wasn’t it awkward? Were you scared?
Are you living together as a couple and living in all the normal ways including sex?
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Wow. Crazy life story. I have so many questions!
Does anybody know from your friends? What about your family? are you still in touch with them? Did they accept your relationship?
Do your kids know you two are siblings?
Your parents should be feeling that they were responsible for this. Because you weren’t allowed to date you weren’t given an opportunity to experience love outside of sibling/family love. Your choice doesn’t bother me at all if you’re happy that’s all that matters. But I can’t help but wonder would you have seen and felt differently had you been allowed to experience love outside the home.
You sound like you have a healthier relationship than many others, so enjoy! I wonder though, did either of you ever date anyone else or even entertained the option at any point in your lives? If so, how did you navigate jealousy?
It is not criminal, but it is not legal either here in the Netherlands. So please don’t bullshit.
If they weren’t there, how were they controlling your dating life?
What in the Folgers am I reading?!
You are harming no one, so I wish you both well.
Honestly, most social taboos arise out of practical necessity. An example is that we’re told it’s immoral to be promiscuous, which pretty much arises from the need to prevent venereal disease and children born out of wedlock (more social mores).
Consanginous relationships became taboo early on when people realized that birth and congenital defects were more common outcomes.
So, I think, when couples like you take care to prevent such things from happening, there’s really nothing for anyone to judge. You’re happy, it seems and you’re not hurting anyone.
I don’t really have a question, but just wanted to share that there’s someone out here who isn’t judging you and is happy for you.
That’s interesting. The Westermarck effect discusses how growing up together actually repels you from one another. I mean, I definitely feel that way towards people of the opposite gender that I’ve grown up with, but in your case, it doesn’t appear so. It’s said that this is more pronounced among those who have grown up together before the age of 6. What is your approx age difference, if you don’t mind me asking? Any history of separation before being united?
I don’t see anything wrong with having consensual relationships with those who are biologically close to you as long as it’s being done ethically. And you guys have been responsible and leading healthy adult lives. What you want to do without harming others is your business. As long as you’re both happy and healthy!
Welp
I’ve just finished reading ‘Flowers in the Attic’ and its sequel ‘Petals in the Wind’ – those books have given me a better understanding of how such things can and do happen.
You’re not hurting anybody, and you are happy – they can be only good things, in my opinion.
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Something like the type of relationship OP has with his sibling would’ve been considered horrid to me years ago. But with wisdom and knowledge and frankly, even some open-minded discussions with others, I’m no longer in that camp thankfully.
Would it be better if circumstances didn’t lead to this type of relationship? Yes, but they’re not hurting anyone. And it’s desired by both parties. My benchmark nowadays for what’s considered horrid has come down to whether it’s hurting anyone outside of their arrangement and whether it’s consensual. Everything else is none of my business and more power to them for braving the inevitable judgement.
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What in the V.C Andrews is this
This kind of reminds me of a movie with a couple of different parts I believe it was called The wallflowers minus the whole evil parent thing from movie
I hear banjo music 🪕🎶