I made someone homeless intentionally

Sooooo yeah. She was my closest friend and got on well with my BF. However, once we moved her in with us to save on rent (we’re all poor, graduates, early 20s), she became increasingly horrible. Constantly complaining about our perfectly fine house, telling me if I didn’t make XYZ the way she liked that she would make the house awkward.

We let her have the first month rent free because she wasn’t legally on the lease for another month but she was homeless and only just got a job so no paycheck. So she was a houseguest! I helped her move in and all

She was being very manipulative and I honestly was a doormat. She left the house in a tip for weeks and wouldn’t unpack her stuff despite me asking. She left the freezer door open spoiling the food. She cooked my house plants alive by moving them onto a heater (they were a gift from my dad 🙁 so I was in floods of tears) and UNPLUGGED MY BEARDED DRAGON. she says it was a mistake but I know the little noise the heater made for my bearded dragon annoyed her (a little beep whenever it went above or below the temp which could be stopped by clicking a single button!). So it looks like she unplugged it out of spite. There were also lots of other plugs around so it wasn’t a case of “oh, I need to charge my phone!” Because there were three empty plugs adjacent to it!!!!! My bf and I were on a trip so although she said it was only a day and a night it could have been as much as four days :(.

She then went off at me calling me a c world and all these horrible names. Telling me I was the bully. Using personal stuff I’d confided and telling me my worst fears were true. She was seething. That I was evil and that she’d spoken to my previous tenants who said I was horrible (I don’t fully believe this because I got on well with them – usual house mate bickering of washing up/ heating etc, but when we see each other around we say hello and catch up on life, so I doubt there’s any real hard feelings. The one thing they said is I can make sassy/ sarcastic remarks when I’m upset but that it’s just something you deal with when living with me but that they weren’t personal attacks or anything. That I might say like “oh are we heating the whole street!” When someone leaves a window open when the heating is on. Like nothing serious! And we parted ways because I suggested i wanted to live with my BF alone.)

Also I’ve lived with my BF for three years very happily. But my “friend” has had her flatmates leave without telling her because she was such a nightmare. She also uses men, and her friends, and when she had BFs she treated them disgustingly. I was blind to the friend thing obviously or I wouldn’t have moved her in but not to the bf thing obviously. Like honestly made me feel awful for them!!!!!!!!!

Best part is she complained the sitting room was triggering her OCD because I had too many books. Said she had the cleanliness kind (?). Fine, whatever, tried to meet a middle ground. However, she left rubbish all over the living room floor (food waste, ie McDonalds bag with her name on it!!!!) and her dirty clothes piled in our entryway. Yeah, so. Not. On. So she went out and I went to put it into her room because if she wants to live like a filthy pig she can do so in her ROOM. So I open the door to pop it in… yeah, it’s an actual tip. It STANK. Like, a real mess. She sleeping on vomit covered bedding!!!! Which is my stuff she BORROWED! But a vaguely musty under stairs cupboard, which was cleared as not damp/ hazardous by a specialist, was to triggering she wanted to make my life hell??!

I also rushed home to care for her when she was sick, and took her to a medical procedure/ to meet up with men she wanted to “organically bump into”. She’d complain when I bought her the wrong serving size of something when she’d never specified the size to begin with. Generally being a pain.

Anyway, I was a doormat and told her I was sorry I made her feel that I was a c word and that I’d hurt her feelings. I fully understood she was hurt that I wouldn’t let her throw out my stuff and that I felt awful. I told her if she apologised I could get over this (although I’d still not see her as a friend; she might be able to stay long term still as a shared tenant). I also told my BF if she was to like, apologise, back track, and maybe like buy me a drink I would probably get over it. Im actually pretty forgiving as a person. She then told me she meant to hurt my feelings, she meant what she said, and she was GLAD I CRIED. That she had half a dozen friends offer her a place to stay because I was so evil.

So I rang the landlord, got her off the lease, which she agreed to, but would I please let her stay until she arranged a new place (I said I’d want her out immediately but when she pushed I didn’t say no, I just said I didn’t want that). I was honestly scared of her, she showed very dangerous and scary tendencies. and then when she went out to see a friend overnight I locked her out and wouldn’t let her back in, only to collect her things. I sent her a snarky message saying basically that she was living with me for free because I was generous and kind but if I’m such a C world I’ll act like one and kick her out. She said she was afraid, homeless, and scared, and vulnerable and then tried to get the letting agent to give her spare keys to get in! Luckily she was refused them. She says she spent the night homeless but I’m happy. So thrilled to have made her life difficult for the night (also, when I kicked her out it was still light out and she could have still gotten a train to a friends house – a friend that she says would take her in!). In the week she lived with me she made me feel horrible constantly like I was on eggshells!!!! She deserved it. She thought I’d be a doormat and let her stay until she found a new place but absolutely NOT.