So I (f35) told my partner (f30) of 2 years an intimate experience I had which I have never spoken about before after my partner joked about how bad her boss was.
When I was 20 years old I was working full time along with studying, I was a PA & my boss was (M50). I really need this job as I had no family to rely on, I made a mistake & was already on my last warning for time keeping & I didn’t want to lose my job so when I got called into his office I sold my soul & told him not to fire me but to discipline me & that I would take a spanking as a lesson if it meant that I could keep my job & wasn’t written up I was desperate. So he accepted & I was spanked, & therefore the next 2 years any mistakes I made I was spanked for until I had made it through my education & sourced another job I did what I needed to survive but my partner called me cheap & basically told me I was that close to prostitution myself which I would never ever do. I was young & I didn’t want to be homeless & she can’t understand where I’m coming from.
TL;DR : told my partner f30 that i (f35) used to let my old boss (M50) spank me to save my job & as I was only 20 & I needed that job to survive so she said I was cheap & basically a prostitute
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I mean thats a wild story. But nowhere near prostitution. Your partner is over reacting.
I mean, it’s hard to respect you for it.
Your partner is over reacting. If anything you are the victim here since he was in s position of power and abusing that.
That’s not prostitution by any means – you did what you had to and the shitty person (people?) are your old boss for being a pig, and possibly your current partner for not being caring and outraged on your behalf at what survival meant for you at such a young age. You deserve comfort and understanding, not castigation from your partner.
I’m sorry you were put in such a desperate position, OP, your old boss is a disgrace and took advantage of your age and desperation.
Your partner now needs to step up and be your partner here.
He took advantage of you. You were young. He was in a position of power. That’s not ok. Even if you liked it, it’s still not ok. People would be more upset if you were a female. That’s not cool.
Your partner is not seeing things clearly here. The boss was an asshole and a disgusting abuser. You were abused. It worries me that your gf can’t show any empathy for you. I feel like you should analyze this response very deeply.
Wish you the best OP, don’t blame youreslf for being a victim.
Yeah no, she’s outta line. You were 20, broke, scared, and surviving. That’s not “cheap,” that’s survival mode. If anything, your partner’s lack of empathy is the real red flag here.
I would be thinking twice about being with a person that judged me for this. It says a lot about that person.
I mean there is nothing wrong with being a prostitute? Like why is that gf’s line of argument here. Many people are sex workers and are still deserving of dignity and respect