Boyfriend and I were together for almost three years. I moved interstate to attend university and he stayed behind in the city we grew up. He (30) M was supposed to meet me (29) F in Darwin.
On my latest trip home to visit we inevitably broke up. Since then I have received a phone call from a woman who he is allegedly residing with (one month after the breakup) I heard him in the background of the phone call and he was calling her babe. I also went through his phone when he was sleeping when I first came home and noticed he had messaged at least one girl that I’d never heard of before. I also had a text from him off another phone after I’d blocked his number – I called it the other day and it was a woman who answered that call. Lastly there is just one other woman he had confessed to sleeping with but refused to give me any details about her (he basically confessed during a heated argument).
I am just wondering for those who have experienced a similar situation – how do you cope with probably never knowing the truth or the extend of your partners affairs.
TL;DR: how did you cope with accepting you’d never truely know the extent of your partners affairs.
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His cheating doesn’t reflect on you. And it’s not uncommon for a cheater to be be entertaining multiple people.
Accept that this person was a bad fit for you, and watch out for red flags in the future.
But again their actions are not a reflection of you, so if you are spiralling get some therapy to with on your confidence and esteem
Did you get back together? You call him your partner not your ex but said you broke up at the start
Difference in coping with a relationship that is over but it’s painful and hard to leave the baggage behind and dealing with a cheating partner is pretty big
You cope because it doesn’t matter. You know enough to know he’s not worth a second thought.
He’s not worth the mental energy.