I 18f and my bf 19m have been together for over a year and have a great sex life. The only thing is I need it rough it’s the only way I’m able to regulate my nerves and emotions. And when I say rough I mean rough slapping, biting, name calling, ect ect. For the past 4 months he’s been really soft and slow in bed I’ve asked him numerous times to be rough and mean like he used to be and he says next time but he hasn’t done anything more then a little spanking not even the paddle or his belt. I dread sex now cuz I know afterwards I’ll be more annoyed and anxious than before.
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He’s your boyfriend,if you wanted to get treated like that it’s works better when you are single.
Considering he started but withdrew that side over time, sit and talk to him outside of the bedroom. Ask him if it feels uncomfortable, and why. Sensory seeking in sex is perfectly healthy, BTW do not be ashamed of it. Hopefully it is something you can work on.
My wife wanted me to use a soft leather flogger on her but I struggle every damn time – even though it is designed not to hit sharp and doesn’t leave a mark no matter how hard you try. I actually hated it, mostly as she is an assault survivor and I pathologically fear triggering a trauma response. I actually needed her to effectively demand it and say she needed it, pretending she bought something expensive for herself and hid it or something to that ilk. Talking openly about things helped me be comfortable doing it – I still don’t like it very much but I am no longer scared of doing it and it does make sex more intense and enjoyable for both of us. Ironically I really enjoy getting flogged whilst being pegged and there’s no reservations there.
It’s kinda hard to spank your gf, call her names etc when you love her. I know it’s role play but I’d just find it hard to do so