Ok so for context. We are close friends that started dating about 4 months ago and we just came back from a holiday apart (we are both 19). And he (M 19) always insists that Im (F 19) gorgeous and hot and yadayada. Ive often gone to hangout in his room because I want to cuddle before going to bed (we live in a dorm together).
The last couple times Ive done this he’s very gently reminded me to go to bed after a brief hangout (me not even mentioning that I wanted to sleep) and suggested that he walk me back to my room. Except then when Im out the door, he’ll say, “I won’t walk you to your room or I’ll just end up kissing you there.” Which to me feels like just saying whatever he can to justify not bothering to walk me back.
I wouldn’t be bothered if he had never done this before. Like early in our relationship we would stay up soo late making out and chatting, and despite understanding when I said firmly that I was going to bed, he was otherwise very eager to keep me in his room. And also he goes to bed sooo much later than me so im definitely not keeping him from sleeping.
I worry that because we are such close friends and Im like desired in our friend group I guess, that he’s staying with me cause it’s logical.
So chat is my bf still into me?
TL;DR; : my boyfriend (M 19) seems to be less into me after coming back from holiday 4 months into our relationship. Help?
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The answer is to talk to him. Gently bring this up and tell him how you’re feeling. Tell him what you need from him to not feel this way and see if he hears you and sees you.
If I could go back in time, I would have so many more difficult conversations and save myself the time