So my boyfriend ‘s Mom has been increasingly rude to me and I dont know how to respond.
Okay first off im (41f) severely ADHD and I suspect im actually AuADHD. My boyfriend(41m) is also ADHD. About 5 months ago, he bought 11 acres way out in the country. It’s entirely off grid, literally started off in a tent with a gas generator and no bathroom/shower. We’ve gotten solar, a trailer, septic system, and currently we get our water pumped up from a creek. Just recently we got multiple in line filters so we have running, drinkable water.
The place is very much pandemonium though, we dont have proper storage for our stuff, no real kitchen, its dirty AF, and with ADHD it can be a constant struggle just to exist day to day in this situation. I mesn, its cool, but its hard. And when his kids come (mine live out of state right now so they havent been here yet), his mom comes too. In fact she’s planning on moving up here soon, after she sells her trailer. These weekends can be extra hard because of all the people, lack of personal space (trailer living), and everyone that doesn’t live here full time treats it like a vacation camping spot or just constantly undermine our efforts. Example: i go to cook something and the gas range won’t switch on. His mom had taken the propane off our trailer and put it on the grill and then left.
But not before making some choice comments towards me. She complains that I don’t do dishes, how hard is it to do dishes, etc etc. Its really fucking hard when we have to have gas to turn on the generator, propane for hot water hooked up, pump turned on, and then round up dishes all over the fucking place or stacked in some container outside hella dirty. Then they have to be washed by band in a TINY sink that gets water everywhere. She does dishes I guess just to prove her point and when she was done (after she left) I noticed that she had used a shirt of mine to wash the dishes because we dont have clean sponges right now and were 20 miles from a gas station and way more from a real store. My shirt is admittedly is all torn up like a rag but it’s definitely my shirt and wasn’t in the sink.
I got waygu beef hotdogs (which i don’t even like) with my very very limited income for everyone and we didn’t have buns and I said we needed them and she was like we cant afford them?? She helps her son with finances but the fuck??
But worst is she just was complaining to my boyfriend that I don’t do anything , and actually said some super rude stuff. I live here full time, if i want to sit around all weekend and not fo whatever chores she thinks i need to do, thats my choice. This trailer is mine and my boyfriends, if its messy one day, oh well. She has a different trailer.
I can go on and on but the comments she made today are really bugging me. How do I clap back and get her to realize im not her son’s maid and I have plenty of my own struggles!
So any advice is helpful. Oh and my boyfriend sticks up for me, and gets annoyed with her bitching, but it doesn’t help lol
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He’s gonna have to put his foot down that she needs to keep her negative opinions to herself or she ain’t welcome in your presence