Hi all. I wanted to post an update for everyone who gave me advice in my previous posts and helped me through a really difficult time.
My soon-to-be-ex-husband has been gone from our home for 2 weeks now. It has been two weeks filled with crash outs, love bombing and everything in between. But I have held firm and told him I am completely out of the relationship and want a divorce.
I have bought new security cameras for the time being, but want to sell our house and buy my own place as soon as possible. But separating our finances is going to be so difficult.
I know I’m only at the very beginning of the journey, but I am feeling so proud of myself and strong in my resolution. And honestly, I haven’t even missed him once yet. I feel free. The kids and I can be at home and do what we feel like without worrying if he will have a problem with it. There’s no more yelling at home. It’s just peaceful.
So thank you again for your advice. I probably won’t have another update, but thank you all and if you have any tips or tricks for negotiating custody agreements and divorce that would be great.
I can’t tell you how much you all helped me push through the hardest part.
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i’m so proud of you stranger, stay strong and don’t let him ever again, your children and you future self will thank you! good luck.
I’m proud of you!
You’ve done something incredible. The fact that you stood your ground despite the emotional pressure – that’s a huge win. Peace at home and your freedom? Absolutely priceless
Whenever it gets tough, remind yourself why you started this in the first place. One tip: write everything down when it comes to the kids and any agreements – even if things seem fine now. You’re in a new chapter – and it’s already starting with a victory
I’m so proud of you! 😍
Congratulations on your decision.
If you need ongoing support, where you can update as often as you like, try mumsnet.
💐
It’s hard to do – I’ve done this too. The struggle is real but the reward of peace is on the horizon! Congrats on being tough!
I’m so proud of you girl. Look to your future not your past.
Also so proud of you!
Please, please do not cave into his excuses/love bombing. He will never change – no matter what he says/promises. I’ve read your other posts, he sounds like a POS. You and your kids will be so much better off without him and his constant screaming, anger and abuse. Focus on yourself and your kids now.
You should be very proud of yourself for moving on. I know it’s scary and hard but it will be so worth it. Best of luck and a happy future for you and your children!
Freeze your credit with all 3 major credit companies. He may turn vindictive very quickly.