Me and my bf have been together over 2 years, we live together and have a good relationship all around. we wind each other up and play fight a lot, it’s light hearted and no one gets hurt. The other day, he was lay at the end of the bed (i was lay in bed) after work and we were just chatting, he starts winding me up by shoving his socks in my face, so i push my feet in his face. All playfully. Until I accidentally shoved my feet into his face too hard (i hadn’t realised how close he was and how far down the bed i’d slipped), I ended up cutting his lip. I immediately stopped and apologised, and asked if he was okay. He stormed out of the room telling me to F off and that I really hurt him. He said that if my family didn’t live so far away, he’d be telling me to get out. This reaction took me by surprise, because usually if anyone accidentally gets hurt, we’re laughing about it 10 minutes later. He spent the rest of the night sat in the living room refusing to speak to me, and is still annoyed at me now.
I’m starting to get annoyed as it was a complete accident, and i’ve made that clear to him, and i’ve said i’ll be more gentle in the future. He still isn’t really talking to me, and it’s making me really anxious. Do I just give him space?
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His reaction sounds excessive, but maybe he just doesn’t handle the adrenaline all too well. I can relate to this to an extent because my gf and me had dozens of these situations where I’d get hurt and sometimes the adrenaline would make me mad. However, I never reacted like this because of the self-control plus the immediate apologies from gf really help me to calm down.
When he calms down you two should talk about what happened and work it out. His reaction isn’t good and should be properly worked on and you should be more aware of your movements in playfights.
24 yo acting like 12. It was an accident he needs to grow up. He should apologise for his behaviour.