My boyfriend (19M) and I (19F) have been together for over a year, and we see each other almost every single day unless something big comes up, like a late night event or a family event for either of us. I can say our bond is really strong, and we’re super used to each other’s presence.
But I’ve noticed something strange: whenever we’re apart for a while, like now, while he’s in another country for a competition, I start feeling physically unwell. I get weak, tired, and/or sick. It might just be a coincidence, but it’s happened more than once now, and it makes me wonder if there’s any real explanation behind it.
Is it possible that being away from someone you’re deeply emotionally connected to can cause stress or mild physical symptoms? I know it sounds a little dramatic, but the timing is weirdly consistent. I’m curious if this could be a psychological or even psychosomatic response. Maybe it’s my body reacting to emotional distress or a sudden lack of comfort and routine? Just wondering if anyone else has felt this or if there’s any science behind it.
TL;DR:
My boyfriend and I are super close and see each other almost daily. But whenever we’re apart for a while (like now, while he’s abroad), I start feeling physically unwell. It might just be a coincidence, but I’m wondering if emotional separation can actually cause physical symptoms or if there’s a psychological explanation behind it.
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Sounds to me like you need to practise spending time away from him.
Do you have other friends? Hobbies? Things you enjoy doing?
part of me wonders if it’s just because he isn’t around that you’re hyper-focused on your body and how you’re feeling in a way you don’t when he’s around.
you should practice meditation, go exercise, read a book, do something that brings you joy and lets you focus on the world outside of your own existence.
YES I had this same thing! I spent almost every day with him since we’ve been together 7mo before I had to go on a 16 day vacation that was planned two years ago. It was HELL. I mean I had fun but I was so homesick, physically drained, depressed and missed him so much I kept crying for the first 4 days… worst part is that there was a 6-8hr time difference and the second half of the vacation I didn’t have WiFi either bcs i was on a cruise 😭😭😭 it was a really nice vacation but I definitely enjoyed it less because of this. My advice is get used to spending a little time apart from each other. Like when one of us gotta go to work and we’d have like just 2 hours instead we stay home, do some things that we’ve maybe been procrastinating or something productive. And then we see each other after work (around 11pm) We did this and now it was not that hard when he went away to visit him grandma in another country. Or when we can’t see each other due to whatever reason. Take small steps and it’ll get easier.