My GF and I have been living and traveling in an RV for about 3 years now, and we use a space heater and propane furnace. For whatever reason this past winter she’s been cranking the space heater to 85°F and leaving it on, no matter what the temperature is inside or outside. I was OK with it during the winter cold because it would be 30°F outside and the space heater could never get the RV up that high if it tried. But now it’s spring and it does get that hot inside. I’ve asked her multiple times nicely to put it at 70°F, or even 75°F, but she keeps cranking it. I’ve also firmly told her to stop. She refuses to wear hoodies and sweatxpants/PJs, and insists on only wearing underwear at home. I’m fairly certain she doesn’t know how a thermostat works, and I tried explaining it to her. I’ll get home and it’s 80 something degrees, so I’ll turn it off, and she’ll just crank it back up when I’m not looking. I’ll turn it off at night, and she’ll turn it back early AM when she notices. I’m over it.
So, tonight, a few minutes ago, I took the heater and hid it in storage. I unhooked the propane to the furnace and removed the fuse to the furnace. It’s 50°F outside, but still 75°F inside the RV. I know we’re about to have a fight in two hours or so. AITAH? Idk what to do.
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My GF and I have been living and traveling in an RV for about 3 years now, and we use a space heater and propane furnace. For whatever reason this past winter she’s been cranking the space heater to 85°F and leaving it on, no matter what the temperature is inside or outside. I was OK with it during the winter cold because it would be 30°F outside and the space heater could never get the RV up that high if it tried. But now it’s spring and it does get that hot inside. I’ve asked her multiple times nicely to put it at 70°F, or even 75°F, but she keeps cranking it. I’ve also firmly told her to stop. She refuses to wear hoodies and sweatxpants/PJs, and insists on only wearing underwear at home. I’m fairly certain she doesn’t know how a thermostat works, and I tried explaining it to her. I’ll get home and it’s 80 something degrees, so I’ll turn it off, and she’ll just crank it back up when I’m not looking. I’ll turn it off at night, and she’ll turn it back early AM when she notices. I’m over it.
So, tonight, a few minutes ago, I took the heater and hid it in storage. I unhooked the propane to the furnace and removed the fuse to the furnace. It’s 50°F outside, but still 75°F inside the RV. I know we’re about to have a fight in two hours or so. AITAH? Idk what to do.
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> 1) I unhooked the heater because my GF kept turning up the thermostat.
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having converted to celcius 85f is hot even for me! I fully expect there to be a row about how you are doing it, but your partner needs to understand its easier to layer to get warm than it is to cool down when very hot. NTA
NTA
The fact that she refuses to wear layers would really piss me off.
NTA
85F is close to 30°C. That is insane!
Even 75F/24°C is hot.
70F/21°C seems way more normal. Exept wen sleeping, then it is stil hot.(For me at least)
If she hates clothing that much, is there something else going on? Mentally(~tism) or fysically( with her skin?)
NTA!! At all. God I deal with this crap too. A girlfriend who sits around the house in boxer shorts and tshirts always complain that she’s cold and cracking the AC up as if I’m not sweating my ass off
This is beyond just needing to feel warm. Feeling cold all the time could indicate a health issue, especially in women. She should get herself checked by a doctor.
NTA, these kind of temps are unreasonable… In The Netherlands the advice is to keep indoor temps to 66F.
I found a solution to this problem a few years ago, I removed the dial knob an put it back on so it pointed to a higher temperature than it was actually set at.