I (33 F) recently went through my bf’s phone (38) And I don’t want to hear all the stuff about it being an invasion of privacy or the whole narrative of going to look for something and finding what I was looking for etc… there were signs displayed that made me do it and I wasn’t hoping to find anything. For the most part I don’t think he has physically cheated but wtf do I know… but what I saw was a form of cheating, FOR ME. What I came across was messages between him and a girl from his past, one who he told me he would never speak to again, that he had blocked etc. I just had a baby and have been going through really bad postpartum. He knows that. And he has been a horrible partner. This sealed the deal for me because I feel so betrayed. So betrayed that I can’t even cry as bad as I want to. I’ve been clinging to my baby non stop, for comfort because she is my happy place. I don’t even think he knows anything is up because I haven’t said anything. But I want this shit to BLOW TF UP IN HIS FACE! how do i let him know i went through his phone and saw this without telling him i went through his phone ???? I want him to feel it deep in his heart how fucked up he is for this and I want him to feel dumb…as a liar as a partner and a person.
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I made up my mind that i have to leave this relationship. It has been unhealthy for a very long time almost 5 years no ring a baby and I’m the breadwinner still although I haven’t even been working smh..and im just done. But I want to exit with a bang