Third post
It’s been a year since all of this started. I never thought I’d be divorced a year and some weeks ago. I only remembered this post because apparently it was my cake day a few days ago.
I have kept lightly in touch with my ex husband. There’s no bad blood between us. But I don’t think I could move on if I stayed close to him. We didn’t divorce because we didn’t love each other after all.
As far as I know, my ex husband and the mother of her child aren’t together. I won’t lie, I was kind of expecting them to end up together. I still kind of am to be honest. But my ex husband has apparently been a good dad to his son. At least as far as I know.
I’ve been dating around recently, but nothing is sticking. Yeah, the big deal breaker is me not wanting kids. I’ve told some guys about why i divorced and they wre very understanding.
I got my own place again, and I’m doing well financially. I never needed my ex husband to take care of me.
Despite my lack of success in dating, I’m feeling good to be honest. I mourned that my marriage has ended, and I will always enjoy the memories.
This was for the best for everyone to be honest.
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That’s so hard, but it sounds like you both did the right thing. Wishing you and him the best.
NTA – I am sure there is someone out there. Be patient and good luck
good on him for doing the right thing.
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This is about the most NAH thread I have ever seen. Both parties acted responsibly and maturely, and acted with compassion. I am sorry that OOP’s marriage ended, but it ended far more cleanly than it would have if she had not been true to herself and had ended up resenting her husband and, even worse, her stepson.
This was not a great situation, but this was the best possible outcome.
Aaww, so glad the guy chose to be in the sons life! What a great guy!
I still remember your story. It was such an unfair situation all around. Glad you’re doing well.
OP, I’d suggest you try to join groups of activities that you like, like hiking groups, running groups, travel groups and so on. Is easier to meet a variety of people this way without the pressure of dating. You will find love again, maybe you still need a little time for yourself
Good on him for choosing the child
Well done for maintaining your boundaries, and I’m glad he chose his son.
Keep dating, someone is out there for you!
I’m going to put this out there because their are so many stories in this sub about children having to spend half their time with each parent because of 50/50 custody, is it possible for an adult and child to split 50/50 custody of the other adult? If the husband in this situation has 50% custody of his son, then could he have spent 50% of his time with OP? Not an ideal situation by any means, but having someone you love half the time might be better than not having them at all.
He didnthe best choice he could. I’m glad he is being a good father to his child, It’s his responsibility. It”s what a decent Man, a worthy Man, would do. I’m glad he is focusing on him and not resenting the child.
You will find the right match eventually.