Just curious. My (25f) bf (23m) goes down on me probably a couple times a month. He claims to like doing it, but I feel like if he really did he would want to do it more often. That’s really the only way I’m able to get off, and he knows that. So, wouldn’t he want to do it more often so that he can get me to the finish line more often? He says I taste great and all that, but it happens so rarely and so I’m just curious if a couple times a month is normal for other couples.
How often does your man go down on you?
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Man here. My gf gets off that way too so I do it literally every time we have sex.
Umm it’s my hubbys favorite and he’ll do it without anything else anytime he doesn’t care. I would talk to him maybe.
I would have this conversation with him. My ex could only get off from clit stimulation so I would either go down or would use a small vibrator on her during sex. Just communicate your feelings.
Literally every time
I’m a dude and I love it when a chick gets off that way cause I’ll eat her to multiples and then I get to have my turn and once I start I can fully enjoy and finish whenever I want and not worry about her getting more. Often times she can get another one too but if she doesn’t she’s already taken care of. It works out pretty good.
Wasn’t for me almost always when we had sex!😊 so I get where u coming from! Sorry just be upfront with him! 🤔 well we haven’t been have much of anything anymore so Goodluck to you! Sometimes as we get older things change! 🤭🙃🙁
Like once a month, I don’t really like it that much but he still insists sometimes.
Does he know that’s the only way you can get off?
70F every time
Every time we engage in coitus unless she waves me off.
Every single time, we have sex.
So, sex is really different between a lot of people… so I’m not sure how useful anyone else’s answer is going to be for you.
Ultimately, it really doesn’t matter what anyone else says, the frequency with which you receive oral is clearly below what you want in a relationship. The answer to “how do I get more frequent oral” cannot be answered by simply comparing numbers with other people and demanding it. You can try this method and you may even see temporary results, but there’s some underlying disconnect between you and your boyfriend that needs to be identified and talked about to actually resolve this issue.
If you want additional help identifying it and brainstorming some ideas you can bring to a conservation with your boyfriend, please tell us more about your sex life in general. What are your power dynamics like, who takes the lead? How, when, and by whom is sex usually initiated? How often and under what circumstances are y’all horny (or not horny)?
TLDR: seems like a communication issue that needs to be addressed as a couple facing a hurdle (not as an issue between you vs him). Don’t rely on an argument that “other women get more”; it’s an ineffective approach simply to make comparisons and demands.
Edit: Good luck, in any case!🍀 getting enough oral to feel satiated is amazing!
Literally any time i want it.. lol we never say no to each other for anything or any kind of intimacy unless ofcourse one of us is sick or something… other than that we’re usually always down for anything 🙂
I love eating my girl out, so I do it every time she wants me to. When we have sex it’s part of our foreplay or afterplay, but I really love it when she just asks me randomly, like when she’s on het way out or coming home from work or when she’s finished showering. She knows I love it and I don’t expect from her to return the favour, after a couple times she doesn’t hesitate anymore to ask me to get her off and then be on her way
It does not matter what’s “normal” for others.
Speak, share, and discuss. If you value the relationships, it’s your responsibility to communicate. Sneak in a positive way to say it…. “Hey, what can I do to make you crave going down on me every time … and make you want it more?
I go down on my girl everytime we go out so like 3-5 times a week, I don’t stop until she cums which is sometimes within a min and it always puts her right to sleep.
My wife i kind of have to beg to go down on her she says it feels great but is uncomfortable for her. I go down on my girlfriend a few times a week, especially if she wants anal. If I get her off clitorally first it makes her anal orgasm twice as strong. Sorry I can’t give you a better answer.
Every single time…he loves it and so do I
My husband goes down on me almost every time we have sex. He loves it, gets rock hard from doing it.
I would have a talk with your boyfriend and lay out the expectation that you get to orgasm before penetrative sex starts. Maybe experiment with those suction toys as an alternative if he doesn’t want to go down every time. But it’s not fair that he gets off every time and you get off a few times a month
Couple times a month is rough. My preference would be to give a couple times a day, honestly.
(I’m a straight man)
It’s not my favorite thing in the world and my bf knows that, but he still loves to go down on me maybe once or twice a week, which is about 4-8 times per month. If you enjoy it, you should definitely tell him that it’s something you really like and want him to do more. Communication is key!
Doesn’t sound like your boyfriend actually DOES like going down on you as much as he professes to. But maybe you are only having sex once a week so those 2 times are 50%? Talk to him to see what is actually in his head. And maybe buy a great sex toy….
Can’t relate to this. I randomly go down on my wife on days that ends in -ay and twice on Sundays.
He used to do it a lot more because I needed it but now I’ve got my toy I don’t need it to finish anymore. He still does it occasionally and it’s more fun and a nice surprise when it happens. He’d do it every time if I asked but I prefer it less often. It changes up the routine and I think it feels so much better when it happens if you haven’t got it all the time.
I go down on my wife everytime. 23 yrs. together and still everytime I go down until she cuts. I like it more than anything else. We have used every position possible
My girlfriend and I don’t go down own each other. We’re a few months in and I haven’t communicated with her whether she’d like to or now but I think if we asked each other we’d both be okay with it.
I guess communicate, he might just be saying that to make you feel better but maybe he just doesn’t like it as much as he says?
If she likes it, then its a good warm up most of the time. Not every time, it gets bland.
Man here. A man who doesn’t go down on his wife or won’t get her off deserves to have his wife seek comfort elsewhere.
Could you imagine as a man and your wife only got you off on occasion even though she knows what it takes for you to do it? A man would be out seeking to get his nut elsewhere. There would be no doubt.
If you want more, let him know. He’s not a mind-reader. Some women don’t even get that much oral.
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Do you ever ask him to? Certain acts shouldn’t just be assumed. No matter how well he knows you, don’t assume he can read your mind. Speak up. If he “likes doing it”, it shouldn’t be a problem to just ask for what you want.
have you told him exactly how it makes you feel when he doesn’t? sometimes people don’t realize the emotional part of it. it’s not just oral, it’s about feeling wanted too
This is definitely concerning.
Just sit on his face everytime you want it. He’ll quickly understand.
maybe he enjoys it in theory. Maybe he doesn’t like machete chopping his way through old growth forests to reach the prize. Maybe hygiene is an issue, and he’s not willing to say it. Any one of a number of reasons. But I suspect he’s going to have a better answer than the Internet.
Add a rose into the equation
My last gf would not let me go down on her, which is too bad since it was a turn on for me
Just sit on his face!! Put him on his back and take a seat.
Man here. I know if my wife and I aren’t using protection, I’m gonna be a 2-5 minute guy, so I always make sure I take care of her first. Just so happen to enjoy the flavor too.
Current partner absolutely loves it and would do it every time if I wanted it – I only nut externally so we alternate between fingers, head, or toys for me. I’ve gotten lucky in that most of my sexual partners have gotten rock hard from eating pussy lol
If they actually love doing it, you will know
My wife doesn’t let me do it as often as I want. I want too every time.
Literally every time we were intimate I went down on her and made her cum first.
Any man who actually likes going down on you would be doing it at every opportunity. No joke.
I don’t know – maybe try talking to him about it.
Maybe its hygeine? Try to test him
I’ve literally (more than once) completely excluded sex, to just eat out instead.
It’s literally a free all you can eat buffet. If he ain’t dining there every time it’s open, he doesn’t like it.
Never (but before you crucify him) I’m the one who hates it 😂 I’ve always gotten stupid wet from foreplay, the extra wetness from oral absolutely throws me over the edge and turns me off.
It’s part of our foreplay so every time
Husband here. I occasionally just want to make my wife orgasm as many times as she can handle (10 or more times) and not even have sex. It’s something I love doing anytime. Maybe he enjoys it but doesn’t love doing it because he’s not that confident in his ability.
The answer is every time we have sex. I’d do it every day though
Lots of people don’t like giving oral.
You can ask for it but he’s free to say “not today”
Well I am a man and I do it every time that’s cuz I love it and pretty much the only way that she gets off through clitorial s stimulation she used vibrators but I don’t let her use them exclusively because then I lose my skills
Just tell him to get busy. I don’t know of any man that would say no.
As a man I demand I be allowed to do every night. Not quite so lucky but I guy can dream..
I go down in my girl every single time we’re together.
Man here …married for many years, I eat every single time without fail, and she reciprocates. It’s this way because first I love it, second I love to make her happy and satisfied.
i’m eating her for at least an hour every time we have sex, i love being in between her legs
Nsfw
I gotta eat it before i beat it🤷🏻♂️can’t get hard without a taste.
Almost every single day. He loves doing it.
Every time!
Every time.
Before, during.
As much as I’m allowed. When you get older with kids you can’t always enjoy the long game. But when I do I get her off 2-3 times minimum before we move on. Then for her it’s one long o until I get mine.
Essential foreplay.
Mine will lay me back randomly and make me take it no questions asked frequently 🤷🏼♀️
Just about every time we have sex.
Atp just tell him everytime you want it hell either do it or not and you’ll have your answer on how you need to move forward