Hi everyone. I really need advice and don’t know who to talk to.
My sister is going through something really painful. Her husband is cheating on her. She found out a while ago, and it broke her. But the worst part is… she hasn’t left him. She says she still loves him and doesn’t want a divorce.
She told me the woman he’s sleeping with gives him money. Like, literally pays him after they have sex. My sister said they’re struggling financially, and her husband told her this is “helping” them. But she feels disgusted, ashamed, and broken.
She cries to me about it. She says it’s wrong, but then says she pities him, that maybe he’s doing this for their future. I don’t get it.
She deserves better. But I also don’t want to push too hard and make her shut down. She’s in such a fragile place.
What would you do if this was your sister? How do I help her without making it worse?
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Can’t make him dump him. “Here for you but I will not have him in my house or life while he treating you like this”
Be there for her. Odds are she’ll need to leave and go back to him more than once before this is over. Odds are also if you try to interfere, you’ll become a problem to be avoided, causing isolation, causing more manipulation. Just be there for her as openly as you can so she’ll never feel like she can’t reach out to you.
Sounds infuriating, You shouldn’t have anything to do with your sister. Cut her off until she breaks up with with her husband. Why would you want anything to do with a woman who let’s her husband have sex with other women.
You can’t make her do anything, but you can be there for her if she ever does decide to leave.
u/RelativeHot9052 You sisters husband is a prostitute. She wont leave him. They now have a marriage that was forced open. She should start dating other people if shes not going to leave him.
Nothing. Not your rodeo
He is hooking himself out for money. He is a sex worker. If his wife is ok this that is between them. It may be hard on her but the wife is making her own choices.
Wife can stay or leave her choice. She is excepting the money he brings home.
I’d just listen. If you’ve already given her your opinion and she hasn’t left then literally the only thing to do after that is be there for her. You can’t force her to leave and you also don’t want to leave her alone to feel isolated. I’m sorry about the situation
Encourage her to get tested for STDs.
my god, it’s none of your damn businesss. get yourself a dildo and pleasure yourself as a distraction.
“I am here for you but it’s becoming frustrating to continually have this same conversation. You are stuck and you are the only one that can unstick yourself”
Always treat cheaters like they treat you.
Tell her to get some dick on the side. He will eventually find out but who the fuck cares.
Side note- I was cheated on after 20 years, my wife was sleeping with a woman. And the moment I found out I opened the marriage. She filed for divorce and I told all of our mutuals about her lesbian affair. She is married to that woman now.