Sometimes the hardest boundaries to set are the ones we don’t even realize we need until we’re exhausted or hurt. Whether it’s saying no to people pleasing, protecting your time, or refusing to tolerate disrespect, those lines can make all the difference. What’s one boundary you wish you’d recognized and enforced sooner?
What’s a boundary you wish you’d set earlier in life?
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To set a boundary, you need to be able first to identify behaviors that are unacceptable to you. And perhaps more importantly, you need to be able to acknowledge the validity of the feelings that you experience in response to such behaviors.
The post below outlines some of those behaviors, and may be a useful guide as one develops the skills to set such boundaries.
These behaviors are discussed in the context of dating, but they can apply to any situation that one encounters in life, whether having to do with romantic relationships, friendships, interactions with family members, situations in the office, interactions with strangers, and so on.
https://www.reddit.com/r/analyzeme/s/will8lMNeQ
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I wish I had learned earlier on what gaslighting is and that it is a form of abuse. Then I would have set some zero tolerance boundaries towards that sort of behavior.
Abusive tendencies. Would have saved me from years of abuse.