I found out that my(F38) husband(M44) was on a chat site. After lots of arguing about it, he confessed that he has sent some shirtless pics to random women. I feel like there is more that he isn’t telling me, but honestly just want to be done. Am I crazy for wanting a divorce?
Should I divorce my husband for sending a shirtless pic to a woman?
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I don’t think this is a crazy path to take. If this is a deal-breaker for you, you might have some obligation to tell him that and allow him to correct himself, but it might just make him hide his actions instead.
It might be worth getting some couples counseling to work through it.
No, that’s not at all crazy.
Not crazy, and you don’t need a ‘good’ excuse to want a divorce. However, it does sound like there are other reasons you don’t feel like fighting to save this marriage. How long have you been together, and what’s it been like?
How would he feel if you sent a shirtless pic to some random guy?
I would also feel like there’s more he’s not telling you.
Divorce is difficult sometimes so do your research first but I don’t think you’re crazy at all.
And if he’s telling you that you’re crazy for wanting a divorce because of his behavior, that’s a huge red flag.
Just tell him would you like me to send a topless pic to a random guy if he sees the mistake or is ok with it becausehe did the same then no of not there is a problem
I think it’s a valid reason for a breakup, like why is guy sending risqué photos to other people when he’s married.
Now he’s broken the trust too because you can’t be sure that’s all he’s sent to people, not to mention what he may have said to people.
I think it’s not enough to lead to a divorce, a divorce entails many things, not only do I divorce and sometimes out of anger and so we think it’s easy but you have to be very mentally minded obviously it’s not something you have to allow or approve but you have to talk to him and set limits telling him that if that doesn’t change the relationship it ends whether you’re a man or a woman relationships often reach a point of routine where you need to feel a feeling of adrenaline and sometimes you do things on impulse and because at the time you felt like flirting or watching porn or talking affectionately with someone (it’s not good) but it happens, try to work more on your privacy, send him sensual photos, suddenly provoke each other to have games and obviously make it clear to him that what he did is wrong
Nope. He is actively soliciting other women. If he hasn’t been successful in physically cheating, that doesn’t change his intent or his actions.
Not crazy , why would he be on a chat site like that if he wasn’t looking
I would step back and look at the whole scenario.
Why does he need this validation from strangers?
Is there a certain way you don’t make him feel, or has he always been a ladies’ man?
If he has always chased women and been a romance guy…. or is this new behavior….
If it is new behavior, he is secretly falling out of love with you.
If he is falling out of love with you, try to find out why…
He’s full of it! He didn’t just send shirtless pics. I’d be done. Just for entertaining other woman alone.
Divorce him because you want to be done. Really, that’s all you need.
Do you have bikini pictures of yourself on social media ?
Maybe marital counseling. Sounds like more is going on behind closed doors
There is ALWAYS more. Cheaters only admit to small stuff when they are at the point of the whole thing coming out. There is ZERO chance this was
the only transgression.