So I got a thank you card basically saying thank you for spending our special day with us and for the generous gift. I didnt RSVP to this wedding I didn’t buy a gift and I definitely didn’t go. š I guess I’m wondering if this was a passive aggressive way of telling me they noticed or what? I’m a cousin of the groom and not that close.
I got a wedding thank you card from a wedding I didn’t attend.
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Thatās very odd. Do you know anyone else who was invited?
Editing to add, you said you didnāt RSVP. Were you invited?
Maybe they created the thank you cards ahead of time when they determined the guest list. If it was a huge wedding, it’d be hard for them to keep track of who attended, who left early, who left a gift, etc. They probably just sent them all in bulk?
They probably bought thank you cards with the invitations
Was it a āpersonalizedā thank you ?
šš some people learn different ways of doing things. My husband wanted to just send everyone a post card with the same note and instead of looking at who attended or what they gave he said just send the notes to everyone who we invited. In my culture thatās considered rude (not judging just explaining) so we went gift by gift and I hand wrote a personal, specific note to everyone who attended and marked them off on a list. For those who attended but didnāt give a gift, I still sent a note thanking them for celebrating with us. Sounds like maybe your cousin sent thank yous to everyone invited with a similar note?
If you were invited but failed to RSVP, Iād assume it was a passive aggressive move to show you the āproperā etiquette in relation to wedding correspondence. But Iām British, passive aggression is my main form of communication.