I 33M am in a group trip (with strangers) in costa rica. It’s been 6 days and I have been talking to them who are also in similar age range as me. I have been respectful, contributed to conversation. I came to know they just went on drink to a nearby bar and no one bothered to ask me if I wanted to join. Some of them even passed by me when they were going out on that night. I now feel lonely and feel bad and I still have 4 days of trip. I feel like crying and don’t know why I am so unlikable. How do I stop feeling like this? I have been thinking about this the whole day and I dont want to ruin my trip..
How to stop feeling bad about me being unlikable
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Just because they didn’t include you doesn’t mean you don’t matter. Some people are simply unaware or thoughtless not everyone knows how to be inclusive. That doesn’t reflect your worth. You’ve been kind, respectful, and open, and that already says a lot about you. Focus on making the most of the rest of your trip. Explore, try something new, or just enjoy the moment on your own terms. You don’t need anyone’s approval to have a good time. You are enough, just as you are
You don’t need them dude. Go out by yourself and have a great time just to spite them. Use an app. You don’t need their permission to have a good time.
Find some other folks to hang out with, or just enjoy exploring the place under your own guidance, following your own curiosity. Those people shouldn’t mean much to you: you just met them, and they aren’t reciprocating your friendliness. If they were old friends suddenly giving you the cold shoulder, I think there would be more reason to mull over it. There are millions of people who are never going to like you, for all sorts of reasons, some of them downright ridiculous. Your life will be hell if you spend it worrying about those people instead of the ones who are willing and able to love you.
I went on a group trip to Australia and there was all kinds of cliques and leaving people out. People that do that are not people you want to be friends with. They have their own insecurities that they project onto others, it’s easier to leave people out than be left out. Have an amazing trip, it’s hard but you’ll get through this! Don’t let mean losers ruin your time
Let me make this clear because we’re not told this often in our lives, you are not responsible for anybody else’s behavior. Practically speaking and in all honesty, how other people behave really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Don’t pull that in on yourself because it’s not your responsibility. That is not a burden of weight you need to shoulder. It does not belong to you. Someone in our lifetime made us feel like it was our fault, but it’s not. It’s a hard thing to believe if you were conditioned not to, but it is the truth.