Location: Minnesota
I used to talk to this girl on Snapchat about a year ago (we never met in person) but we go to the same college and are in the same grade. We used to send silly messages to one another and just talk normally and even about drama. She was huge into tea. I recall back in February or March, we were talking and in the course of conversation I sent a silly voice message that could come off as me moaning but sounded more like me barfing. She saved it and screen recorded it and said it was weird, but we continued talking. I didn’t know or think anything was seriously wrong at the time given that we continued talking and staying in touch online, she could’ve easily said something or blocked/unadded me. Now come around April and I wanted to meet her in person to hang out, so I asked and she said no. I didn’t see a reason to keep talking on snap so I unadded her. We still followed each other on Instagram. Now, before I unadded her, she introduced me to a guy who was doing my same major a year before me. I added him and we spoke a tad and I ran into him in person once where he asked what I thought of her. I just told him the truth that I was kind of confused and pissed off that she didn’t want to meet in person so I thought she was weird for that. She then messaged me asking why I was talking shit about her. I said I didn’t really and we continued as normal until I asked to hang out a couple weeks later and then finally unadded her.
A couple months pass and I completely forgot about this whole situation. We are still following each other on Instagram (the girl and me) but the guy accused me of selling fake AirPods on my Snapchat story and idk maybe some other stuff happened behind my back and he blocked me on everything. In the summer I reallocated to Georgia for an internship and had a rough time with some other drama. I got kicked out of a club by the president because he disagreed with me about something, who is the best friend of the guy’s brother. After stuff died down a bit, I randomly get a phone call from an unknown number at like 11 PM. I pick up and it’s a person remaining anonymous accusing me of sexual harassment. He tells me to contact that girl and apologize to her. I add her on Snapchat and she adds me back immediately. I ask her to call and she says she will tomorrow. I tell her that some random dude is saying I sexually harassed her and I have no idea what’s going on. She says she doesn’t want to be involved. I send her a message asking her to say I didn’t sexually harass her so I can screenshot it and she says wtf and screenshots that and sends it to the guy who called me with an anonymous number. Because the anonymous number texts me with a screenshot of that message. I ask her wtf she’s doing and she says that I said something weird so she sent it over to him. I tell her not to ss anything and she says ok. She says she figured out what was going on. She said that that guy and her were talking shit about me by him saying I stalked his brother (I have no idea what this is about) and then she just selectively sent him messages she screenshoted of convos that we had on snap to paint a narrative I’m a bad guy. She said she didn’t think it would be this serious and told me to call him because she thinks this is about me stalking his brother. I ask her who that guy is and she refuses saying I stalk his brother so why would she tell me. I tell her I have no idea what that’s about since I never stalked anyone. I then send an apology message saying I’m sorry if I ever made her uncomfortable (she responds saying thank you) and to keep my name out of her mouth and block her, removing any access of messages we had. She also blocked me somehow meaning the messages are permanently gone.
Now the anonymous number is texting me essentially saying I didn’t apologize to her (referring to the screenshot of me asking her to say I didn’t sexually harass her). The number sent me the video of my voice message (it sounded silly like me barfing and kinda not like moaning), and said I persisted on meeting her despite her saying no multiple times. They then blackmailed me (in a weird way by saying this is my way out) by telling me to admit to sexual assault and apologize or they’d contact the police. I sent a diplomatic message saying I didn’t realize I made her uncomfortable and apologized for that, then blocked that number.
I tried my best to forget about that. Then, a week or two later, my parents call me. An anonymous number called the home phone and said things like “I’m a concerned brother” saying I was staking his brother (I have no idea what this is about) and “your son sexually harassed a girl” and that they would press book charges. My dad asks what’s going on, I tell him the truth and show him the voice message. He tells me to ignore them and just focus on my studies.
I contacted a criminal defense attorney for a free consultation, told them everything honestly, and they said I really shouldn’t have anything to worry about and if the cops come (which very likely won’t happen), to contact them again. They said I can press charges if this keeps continuing against me.
Then, my friend contacts me (at my college) saying he heard rumors that I sexually harassed a girl. That guy and that girl (together) ran into my future roommate and friend (don’t worry he’s still my friend and roommate he believes me) and said bad things about me like the girl said I’m manipulative and a bad person. The guy said I’m a sexual harasser and said I’m not a good person to live with. Then the girl said everything honestly about what happened (according to my friend and he didn’t think it was sexual harassment) and brings up past drama we discussed to say I’m not a good person to live with. My friend asks them if they contacted my parents or my workplace and they said no that’s too far.
I forget about the situation again. My parents keep receiving phone calls on the home phone that are silent when they say hello. Then, a couple weeks later, I get a ping from HR during my internship. They ask if I’ve been sending voice messages to interns or if I’ve tried dating anyone while I’m in Georgia, and stuff like that. It was a surprise investigation and it caught me off guard and I denied everything and didn’t tell HR about the incident because I forgot at the time. A week passes and I get pinged for another HR interview, this time I tell HR everything that happened as the truth. HR pushes back against me a bit with the “evidence” they received and I push back by just telling them the truth. Like yes I contacted the girl during my time in Georgia for the internship but the voice message was months before I was employed here. In addition, these people aren’t affiliated with the company. I sent HR the only stuff I have which is the text messages the anonymous number and I have.
I don’t know what to do.