Hi guys I have never posted in here but I always lurk. But it finally happened. My fiancé finally saw it for what it is. For context we have been staying with her while we wait for our apartment and she hasn’t been as great as I’d hoped. She just came back into my fiancés life not even 2 years ago after his SD(step dad. Sorry I think this works with the abbreviation rules, if not please let me know!) died. Her other 2 children refuse to allow her around their children and won’t speak to her. Of course she thinks this has nothing to do with her. But since being here she has been mean to our cats, went through my stuff, has thrown my towels on the floor and left them there, along with all of this so many other things have happened, she will only speak to me if my fiancé is home and when he is watching she’s a perfect angel. This is only some of the things that usually happen. Well yesterday he called me from work and he actually got to hear what goes on and how she acts when he’s not here. He was so mad that she would treat me this way. After he hung up we were texting and I finally felt so validated that he now could understand and see it for himself without me telling him. We will be moving within the next few weeks finally and we are very excited to have some space to rethink our relationship with her. Thank you guys for your posts on here telling me that the behavior I was experiencing was not normal and I am not alone in this!
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You know her other children had the right idea, right?
It’s pretty annoying that your husband only believed you once he heard it firsthand.
Abusing your cats. Being mean to a small defenseless animal IS abuse. I hope you can get away from there and that your cats are safe.
There is a reason that her other kids are NC.
Finally, your fiancé got a taste of his mom’s true colors. Better late than never. Now that he’s on your side, use this momentum to set some serious boundaries. You’re getting out of there soon, and that’s all that matters.