So I(32f) had a health scare recently, and ended up in the hospital for a few days. They did multiple tests, and while the reports were not conclusive, they did find some minor issues in my ovaries and a blood infection.
After being released, I decided to get a second opinion from another, trusted doctor. Now, my bf(34) sent me a message that his father sent him (not me), to ask me to share my medical reports so that they can show it to his uncle, who is a doctor.
I am not comfortable with this. I grew up in a family of doctors, where if anything would go wrong, my relatives would always know and it always gave me this sense of invasion of privacy.
I told my bf that I am not comfortable sharing my medical reports with his family, especially when I don’t know his uncle that well. I would prefer to show my own doctor. He called me ‘immature’ and how ‘I don’t have an understanding of things’. I told him to f*ck off.
Aita for not wanting to share my reports with his family, even though his uncle is a doctor?
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NTA. “I’m not comfortable with that” should have been the end of it. Your boyfriend needs to respect your boundaries.
Nope. Not at all
NTA. If you choose to get a second opinion from your bf’s uncle, you can set that up on your own. Your bf is an AH for not respecting your right to say no.
NTA – depending upon the uncle’s area of expertise, I would maybe ask to meet with the uncle to discuss your results one-on-one. There is no need for his whole family to know. The offer was generous of them and it shows concern for you. However your response to your bf should have been accepted.
NTA| you weren’t comfortable sharing that information to someone you hardly know. Your boyfriend is in the wrong for saying you “don’t have an understanding” when you do from saying you have relatives who are doctors who did the same thing. You’re not obligated to share information to someone you barely know.
NTA your bf sucks
NTA Your medical records are personal and protected for a reason. You’re under no obligation to share them with anyone, let alone your boyfriend’s uncle who isn’t your physician. His reaction, dismissing your discomfort and calling you immature, isn’t just disrespectful, it shows a complete disregard for your autonomy and privacy. Boundaries around health information are valid and serious, and belittling you for setting them is unacceptable.
NTA and not immature for having boundaries about your own body.
His uncle being a doctor doesn’t make him your doctor, or even the kind you need. NTA
This was a test to see if you will let these people dominate and control you. Show him you have a very clear “understanding of things” by making this loser your EX bf. NTA.
The next question is why would you tolerate this. His family probably wants to see if you can have kids. SMH
NTA. This is a useful piece of info into how that family operates. I have no doubt the entire family would see those reports. I think your boyfriend is the immature one and he’s being a red flag right now.
NTA. It’s none of their business.
NTA. Health information is considered the most sensitive personal information. You should never spread it around.
It’s kind of weird and unnecessary…and your bf is being a dick…keep your boundaries and ignore what his family wants…it’s your body your business and Noone elses
NTA. This is why HIPAA exists.
AITA for not wanting to share my medical reports with my EX bf’s family?
Fixed it
“Why should I show my medical records to anyone but a specialist in _____? Your uncle’s a proctologist, what would he know about this!”.
NTA
If he insults you for wanting privacy, can you really trust him not to share what he knows anyway?
If he’s going to be like that, do you want to stay in the relationship?
NTA.
NTA
“NO.”
That’s it. Also, contact the medical records department of the facilities that treated you. Tell them you’re concerned someone may try to access them without permission or get someone else to. Ask what their measures are to prevent this and how you can further lock down your info.
Make sure you tell every provider or hospital “I do not want to be in the directory, I want to be listed as confidential, I do not want anyone to be able to confirm i am here or know where I am”
If you are in the US remind them of HIPAA. The uncle should refuse to even look into it without a direct conversation with you and getting explicit permission.
Get rid of the human-shaped growth that you have on you, sis.
His request/suggestion that you give him your medical info so he can pass it on to his relative? Acceptable and reasonable.
You declining that offer? Acceptable and reasonable.
Him calling you names? Unacceptable and unreasonable.
Him telling you that you don’t have an understanding of things because you won’t do what he wants? Unacceptable and unreasonable. And also, unexplainable. Like, the fuck does he mean and think?
And that’s not how you treat someone you lovingly care about.
NTA
NTA. It’s your personal information and not a family exercise. If your bf disrespects you on this then seriously read the red flags and get out of this relationship.
NTA
That is one nosy family!
for the “f*ck off”
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First, they want to read report, next spread legs for exam? If this what his uncle does, he’s probably breaking HIPAA policies.
Well at least he showed his true colors. I’m pretty sure the doctors are good explaining things in an understandable manner. I had a concussion which led to some temporary hearing loss. The 1st visit the doctor explained everything very well where I left with no questions and a much better understanding about hearing. Make the bf an ex and be done with him. You can do better but that isn’t saying much with guys like that.
NTA, your boyfriend thinks your feelings are dumb and you should do whatever he (or his family) tells him to do.
Of course you’re NTA. Your bf handled that poorly by showing you that message in the first place. And then made it so much worse with his insulting response to your more than reasonable reaction. Time to let him go be with his intrusive family without you.
NTA You decide who has access to your information.
BF’s parents are being intrusive. I doubt a doctor that wants to keep being a doctor is going to accept medical records from a third-party to make an unrequested diagnosis on someone who is not their patient.
Ex BF right?
He should accept that you aren’t comfortable sharing your records. Ditch him. He’s a jerk.
I was gonna say yta for saying F off but I prob would have too haha.
You have every right to be uncomfortable and as much as he might care (he’s being a jerk tho) there’s a way to handle it better. But privacy is key
Your boyfriend’s behavior is not acceptable. I don’t blame you for not wanting to share your personal medical reports with his family. You are definitely NTA.
Just NO. His uncle is NOT your doctor and he has no reason to see your medical records. Honestly, it would be unethical for the uncle to review your records and render a professional opinion if he is not your doctor. Seeing your own doctor or getting a second opinion from a doctor you choose is ok. BF family is WAAAAAAY out of line asking this. If BF thinks the same, I would reconsider my relationship. Sounds like he is willing to violate your boundaries and share everything about you to his family. Not ok.
Updateme!
The fuck… NTA for wanting privacy, and your bf sounds like a condescending douchebag. Your medical history is none of his families business.
NTA – Sounds controlling as f*** in my opinion. You “don’t have an understanding of things”? You literally lived through snooping family and invasive MDs in the family, you should know best! The actions of BF and his dad are unacceptable! This and him doubling down and calling you out are major red flags.
NTA, you have every right to not share and to know it is going throughout his family, his uncle being a doctor or not, is a huge NO!
Do what your gut told you. End of story, no arguing.
“Fuck off” you got this, NTA but reconsider choice of boyfriend
You miss spelled EX boyfriend
NTAH
Sis, I am offended on your behalf. Absolutely fucking not. How dare you assume you’re entitled to ANY information about MY body. Don’t ask again. Resoundingly NTAH
a bigger red flag than all your nosey family in law is your boyfriend’s reaction to a boundary that is reasonable as hell. “Immature”? wth
NTA BF should have just dropped it at Ts r you said it didn’t make you comfortable. And odd questions you don’t have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable but would his uncle even be the right type of doctor to even see for whatever health issue you are having because the term doctor can mean a lot of different things in the medical field
NTAH!
Dafuq? Gilead calling?
Family Council will decide if you are “whole enough” to be allowed to marry their precious son.
I’d yeet that one into orbit for even daring to transmit that shit indiscreet request. Hippa… did he ever hear about that?
“Don’t have an understanding of things” is a tell for you bf is a dumb hick under it all.
NTA Your medical records are the most private of all records. I can’t get over how many people are dating folks that get so hurt if you don’t do what they want. If he was mature, he would have offered “hey my uncle is a doctor and I would be happy to connect you with him, if you want”.
NTA. No is a complete answer. Your medical history is no one’s business but yours. Your boyfriend’s reaction is a red flag though. Have you been together long? Sounds like his family’s understanding is that you have no privacy.
NTA. Your ex? is an idiot. I’m glad you told him to f*ck off. His family has no right or entitlement to get involved in your medical affairs.
The family is very weird for asking for that. If you asked for help they could accept. It’s weird to ask someone who is not being affected to share their partners medical papers. I don’t like it and it seems very controlling.
NTA. You don’t wan to be tied to this family. Rethink everything.
NTA. He is the immature one for asking you to share your medical information and get upset when you refused.
You have the right not to sharw your medical information. Remember that and dnt anyone coerced you in doing so.
HIPPA has his family ever heard of it!?
Updateme
NTA. You absolutely understand things, including HIPAA. Tell your BF to “tell your father to tell your uncle that you appreciate his interest in your health, but you don’t need another consultant.” I’d hate that they were all discussing your health issues amongst themselves.
BF’s uncle should be VERY uncomfortable with that!
NTA
NTA
Your boyfriend is the one who “doesn’t have an understanding of things” and is overstepping by including anyone at ALL in your medical information without YOUR EXPRESS permission!
Time to leave the pushy manipulative family behind for better options. Also, if his uncle is any kind of doctor of worth, he wouldn’t offer any medical advice without a complete exam and your permission. He has neither
I think his family is fishing for more info. Good for you for not letting them have it. I would not want a partner who expected me to be ok with sharing my medical issues with others.
NTA.
Also why is your boyfriend talking to his Dad about your test results?
“Tell uncle Billy my family’s got this.”
NTA
Your boyfriend is the one that doesn’t understand things and is immature. A mature person would have said to you “hey honey, I know you’re getting a second opinion, my uncle is a doctor and if you’d like he offered to take a look at your medical records and offer some advice or maybe a referral to a specialist.” And then you could’ve taken that offer into mind and decided what you wanted to do and if your response was you’re not really comfortable doing that he should have said “OK well the offer is out there just so you know.” And then that should’ve been the end of the discussion.
Instead, he made a demand of you because his daddy suggested it and when you declined, he lashed out and insulted your intelligence. I hope for your sake, this is the end of the relationship.
NTA, that’s your personal data to share with whomever you like and if you don’t want to, it’s a hard no. And he’s immature for not respecting your boundaries and getting mad about not sharing private data. Great work telling him to f*ck off, I love it!!!!
First off NTA. Full stop. This is your body. He is your BF not your husband, so he has no right to judge this… and even if he was… still NO.
INFO- Do you live in the US? While I understand the emotional comfort of wanting your medical information personal, sometimes having someone who can understand the information better than you, as a layman, might can be helpful. Especially if that person is willing to do it without the charge of an office visit. That isnt additional judgement, just… food for thought.
NTA but that’s what the future looks like. Every time you go through something, he will share details with his family.
Please let there be an edit to show this is an ex.
Please, please, pretty please
NTA. HIPPA is there for a reason. You don’t owe them shit.
NTA
NTA but you seriously need to rethink some things. The sense of entitlement and control shown here by the father AND your BF is off the chart.
This was not a friendly offer “My uncle is a doctor and could give advice if you want”. This was you must give us your records. This won’t be the last time they invade your privacy
I hope you do get answers from the doctor(s) you choose and trust
You told your partner that you did not want to share your private medical information with his family. In response, he insulted you. .That, right there, is a red flag. In a healthy relationship, you can have a calm, two-way conversation, and aren’t hesitate to share if something upset you.
Don’t ignore those red flags. I have in the past, and regretted it.
NTA.
Your boyfriend is awful.
NTA. Your boyfriend calling you immature over this is a huge red flag. Your personal business is yours only and if you don’t want to share it, that’s the end of story. I’d be wondering about him as a person and the lack of respect with him and his family.
He called me ‘immature’ and how ‘I don’t have an understanding of things’.
OP, the last thing you need is a diagnosis (or even an opinion) from a doctor who does not know your medical history and has never examined you. You have every right to protect your privacy (this is why HIPAA laws exist) and your boyfriend and his nosy father are wrong for not respecting your wishes.
Your medical issues are yours. If you said you were uncomfortable I don’t think your guy is cool telling you you’re being immature.
It’s none of their business. I get they probably are trying to help you but you didn’t ask for help so…. Buzz off.
NTA your partner is for sharing your business.
If you have ever signed a HIPAA release at any medical office allowing your boyfriend to access your medical records, you need to rescind it. Immediately.
Your health records are none of his family’s business, no matter if his uncle is a doctor or not. I wouldn’t be comfortable just handing that stuff over either.
NTA
“No thank you” should have been the end of it.
You BF family has no business knowing your medical records.
Time to get a new BF. Anyone who calls you names and insults you over protecting your privacy does not ahve your best interests at heart.
Dump this controlling , disprespectful AH now.
WTF does “don’t have an understanding of things” even mean? Good for you for telling him to fuck off!
Nope. NTA. This guy isn’t the one OP. This is not a family you want to marry into or have kids from. Super enmeshed and inappropriate ask.
Why is your BF telling his father your medical business in the first place?? Stop telling him anything.
NTA that was an inappropriate ask to begin with.
NTA. If you choose to have a conversation with the uncle at some point, that’s your decision. I don’t think medical records need to be shared for that to happen. Your boyfriend should respect your decision, but it’s possible you hurt his feelings. He most likely felt that he was trying to help you and that you weren’t accepting of it. Worth having a conversation about it so you can each see the other perspective even if you don’t agree with each other. My husband and I agree to disagree from time to time. Understanding where the other one is coming from takes the anger out of it.
No one should ever ask for your medical information. I was married for 10 years we didn’t even see each other’s.
If he knows you have doctors in your own family, then he’s both an idiot and an ass to suggest you don’t get any aspect of this.
NTA. Dump that moron.
This is 1) a boyfriend, not a husband. And 2) uncles-in-law are not entitled to private medical info. No inlaws are. Good job, OP. NTA
It’s a violation. Do not share your medical records with anyone. End it with your asshole bf because he was so fucking disrespectful.
Why would his dad even think to ask for your medical records? So fucking weird.
Six months ago he was “criticizing your choices all the time” and you blew past that red flag so I expect you’re not going to do what needs to be done about this one either.
I also have doctors in the family. We only go to them when we want/need something urgent and/or we feel we can’t trust our own doctors fully. They never reach out to ask us for our medical history. Doctors get asked for free medical advice all the time. They took an oath to serve, so it’s not like they can completely reject you even if they can’t help you. They will have to spend time asking around their colleagues for advice also. It takes an enormous amount of time for them to hunt down information sometimes. They’d rather not deal with work at home, too sometimes.
I bet only your bf & his family are pushing for this info and assurance from a person they trust instead of really helping you out. They forgot that there is such a thing as boundaries.
No one has an obligation to share any medical information they don’t want to. Especially to someone not even considered family in the eyes of the law. Good intentions or not.
NTA.
No it is none of anyone’s business, even your bf. You are already getting a second opinion.
NTA & frankly, if his uncle has any ethics, he’ll refuse to get involved if they tell him you don’t give your consent. Consider your BF’s response to your “no” and well explained justification of the no (not that a no needs to be justified) a huge red flag with a bright spotlight shining right on it.
It shouldn’t have even been asked. If they wanted to make an offer, they should have said “Uncle Joe is a doctor and would be happy to look over your reports and give you a second opinion if you’d like” and if the answer was no, that’s the end of the discussion. And this is all predicated on Uncle Joe having the necessary qualifications to actually GIVE a second opinion.
NTA
I’m sorry, has BF ever heard of boundaries? He crossed yours when you told him you weren’t comfortable with it, and started name calling. It’s none of his, much less his family’s business unless you choose to share it. Keep your boundaries, they are good. NTAH.
According to your short post history, your boyfriend seems to have a habit of being dismissive and disrespectful towards you.
He seems to be this way in every sphere of your life. So my question to you is, what does he have to do to you for you to see how awful he is exactly?
You said, in one of your comments, that you feel that the more you talk about getting married, the more he begins to dislike the things you like. Unless your taste has changed since you’ve known him, then no, he probably has always hated them, but now that you are deep in the relationship, the mask is coming off slowly.
Do you really see yourself getting married to a man who mocks your hobbies/taste and gives you shit for not sharing your medical file to his entire family?
NTA – But some self reflection on how you see yourself in the future might be a good idea.
“Oh, really? Why don’t you share your deep & detailed understanding of “things” and I will consider your points? Or is “understanding of things” just your family’s code for intrusive nosiness and lack of boundaries?” 🙄
The answer is no. And that’s it. If anything, he can share his uncles information with you and you can consult the uncle directly.
Your health, your privacy. You were right to tell him to f*ck off!
NTA. “Immature”? Why? How? “I don’t have an understanding of things”. How are you to understand when his stupid response to you’re reply is “Immature”. He’d have been better off by not even asking the first place. Something is EXTREMELY wonky here!
You are NOT the AH at all. It should have ended the first time you said you weren’t comfortable.
The Dr Uncle cannot treat you if you aren’t his patient & should not want to look at your records outside of his practice setting. He’s probably a dermatologist or something 🙄.
Wow. NTA but your boyfriend sure as shit is
NTA, I can’t believe that he was mad you wouldn’t send it. WTF, why would he think that you would give sensitive information to someone you don’t know. He’s a AH for getting mad.
NTA. He can f@ck all the way off!. Dump him. You decide who gets access to your medical history.
You need a better boyfriend NTA
NTA. i’d rlly like to know what exactly is immature about keeping your private medical information private. there’s nothing to have “an understanding” of here lmao you already have a care team and a second opinion from a doctor you have no personal relation to.
Omg get rid of that boyfriend. You can put he’s a cancer on your record and send that to his father.
Your boyfriend is being an asshole in this case. Your medical information is exactly that: YOUR’S. Only the people you want to know should know
Updateme!
Make sure that your medical records / reports are not in a location that your BF can “borrow them” so that the uncle can look them over.
Maybe reconsider your relationship with BF. Think about the future and his family interfering in your life (in all the ways) or how you raise your future children.
Good luck
Of COURSE you’re NTA. What kind of presumptuous ass would make this request?? You understand perfectly that his family feels entitled to your private information. Proceed with caution.
Oh hell no. This is invasive. Could be a red flag for your future with this family.
NTA. They have no need to see them. Plus this unknown Uncle is not your doctor. Absolutely no.
Good grief. People seem to keep throwing around the word “immature” without having a clue as to what the word means!
His use of the word doesn’t mean what he apparently thinks it means. You 100% have the right to say no and to control your PRIVATE medical information! There is nothing childish about it. Your health is not their business.
I’d definitely like to know, in his own words, what you “don’t have an understanding of things” means. That sounds very controlling and even threatening to me. 🚩
Does he normally have a fit and belittle you when you say no? 🚩Has he called you names before? 🚩Tried to bully you into doing something? 🚩
Ok, on a different note: I hope your health problems are quickly and easily resolved and that you’re the very picture of health in no time!
NTA and I think you mean “ex-boyfriend”
NTA at all. Besides which for your ovaries you may want to see a specialist. A good dr knows to stay out of family medical issues unless they and the patient are 100% comfortable.
Your boyfriend’s reaction to your decision is concerning.
NAH this would make me so uncomfortable. Most doctors don’t like being put in that position either, where the lines of professionalism and privacy are blurred. You bf is the immature one.
Hugs you stated your boundaries, and they call you immature. Your medical records are not theirs.
NTA hey op.
This is a glimpse of your future btw.
Screw that. It’s noone’s business except yours. NTA
WTF! Then they should know better. You told him right.
NTA And the uncle would agree with you. You have a doctor you trust and the uncle doesn’t have your entire medical history. The only one being immature is your boyfriend and his family if they are also treating you poorly regarding this.
NTA. They need to learn to respect your privacy. Also, there is a legal issue here. Family or not, doctors need to be careful giving advice and such. If YOU decide to seek his advice later on, then it should be on your terms and your decision. Your bf calling you immature for wanting some respect, red flag.
NTA… oh hell no. He may be a Dr, but the uncle isn’t YOUR doctor.
NTA and you gave the appropriate response.
Definitely NTA, and you were right to tell him to fuck off.
Do YOU know whether his uncle is a board certified physician specializing in your medical issue? Perhaps the uncle is a chiropractor or has their PhD? If the uncle is a decent physician, they’d be well aware of HIPPA laws and I hope would tell family to butt out.
All that aside, WTH is wrong with your bf’s family. It’s none of their business unless you choose to make it theirs. Take a serious look at this massive attempt of personal violations, is this what you want? It’ll only get more intrusive
NTA. I have no problem with his dad texting him instead of you as long as it’s a normal supportive text like “I hope GF is ok. If she wants, Dr Uncle can look at her medical file and see if he has any thoughts on it.” I think it’s fine for his dad to not want to bother you or come off as pushy.
Where it gets really bizarre is with your boyfriend’s reaction. Any reasonable person would just say “cool, let me know if you want me to put you in touch, maybe if you’re still searching for answers after that second opinion.” His reaction means he either can’t handle you saying no to him, can’t handle the stress of your medical issues, can’t handle not being in control or can’t handle basic communication with his family. I don’t know which one it is, but they’re all quite bad and don’t bode well for a happy future. If he tries to spin any story about his dad’s intent or fabricates drama around it, feel free to text his dad directly, “BF told me about your offer to have Dr Uncle look at my file. Thanks for thinking of me and wanting to help. I have an appointment with a new doctor for a 2nd opinion so I’ll do that first and see if I need more help after.”
If his uncle is a doctor he should understand HIPAA and why a doctor shouldn’t diagnose/treat their own family. ( unless an emergency leaves no other choice of course ) NTA
This is information that spouses usually share between families and even then, it depends on how well the family member is known and trusted. If y’all are just boyfriend and girlfriend, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that either of you wouldn’t be comfortable sharing such intimate information. The offer was nice, but berating you for not accepting it is unacceptable and it makes me wonder what the real motive is behind wanting you to share such information.
Your boyfriend was pretty hostile when you didn’t immediately obey his wishes. That isn’t love or respect for you, is it? So what is it? May be an active interest in your fertility. That issue isn’t something they can get to in normal discussions. So this hospitalization may have provided an opportunity for their priorities, You boyfriend’s insulting behavior adds to that.
Is this about having children?
The uncle is actually a dentist…
At 34 hes unbelievable immature not being able to comforably tell his uncle you said NO..it seems his people pleasing desires got him in an emotional turmoil and he chose to insult you over just relaying an answer.. point this out to him and see if he doesn’t soften his attitude if not hes the asshole ..this is a partial red flag how its resolved will tell if its a full one or not. NTA
Lmao, ask him to give your uncle a detailed medical report on his testicles first. NTA
NTA. It’s YOUR medical chart, you choose who to share or not share it with. My doctor just so happens to be family to my fiancé’s ex wife. The only reason I am comfortable going to said doctor is because of HIPPA.
It’s no one’s business unless you choose it to be. He’s the one being immature and not having an understanding of things.
Nta, it super over stepping of his family. His family doesn’t need to k ow your business. He’ll your bf isn’t a husband he doesn’t need to know stuff either but then again if you can’t trust your bf you shouldn’t be with him.
I hope you’re feeling better.
It seems that your bf isn’t a good listener – as well as forgetful regarding you having doctors in your own family.
Apropos his not being a good listener, your second response was spot on.
NTA
Jeez get rid of that bf!!! What a creep! Does he realise what he’s doing there is illegal?
Nta. “No, thank you. He is not on my medical team and I do not consent to him seeing my records.”
Maybe boyfriend just wanted excuse to showoff her cute pussy?
NTA.
I would ask what kind of doctor said uncle is and unless it is hemotologist and OBGYN he isn’t the leading expert in your ovaries or blood.
If you wanted to be petty and live in the US. You could schedule an appointment with this uncle/doctor and then say, “he has them, but legally he can’t disclose anything in them to any of you or I will sue him under HIPAA. Any questions?”
NTA. Your boyfriend’s response is not ok. Why was he even talking to his dad about your medical issues? It’s just not ok. Your bf needs to apologize and also respect your boundaries. He is immature. And what things don’t you understand? It is straight forward. Your medical issues and your decision.
Nta thats your private medical information and you choose who gets to see it. Break up he doesn’t know boundaries and probably never will.
NTA
Ask if he thinks HIPAA laws are immature. HIPAA laws are there for a reason. Your PRIVATE medical information is protected by HIPAA. It’s not at all immature to protect your PRIVACY.
Your BF and his family do not know how these things work. They don’t get to decide who shares what type of private information. If you wanted “family” to know, you would have sent it to your own.
Think about your BF’s reaction and decide if you would trust him to keep your medical issues private, or if he would override your objections just because he “knows best.”
NTA.
My niece is a robotic surgeon as well as being a general surgeon, I SHARE NOTHING.
Listen to me clearly. Do not provide any medical reports or information to anyone, including your boyfriend. He doesn’t seem to have your best interests at hand. And his father should have had the decency to ask you directly so you could tell him no.
OP’s BF: [Stamps feet] If you don’t do what my dad wants, you’re immature!
OP: Fuck off.
Perfection. NTAH.
NTA how incredibly rude.
At least you know now that the family views you strictly as a possible incubator for your BF’s spawn.
NTA. Lack of privacy. They didn’t ask you directly or ask if it was okay with you, they assumed it would be. And that’s not cool. You don’t have to show them anything and your bf not backing you up on that is concerning bc it shows what kind of person he is.
nta what does your bf think you don’t understand?! Your medical records n your choice. Nothing about that is immature.
Hepa
The uncle even asking your bf for the records is a hepa violation. No means no, and bf’s response to you is so out of line, seems he should be Xbf
NTA
Talk about an invasion of privacy. Lose the bf. Nothing will be kept private with that attitude of his.
Nope. Nope. Nope. NTA. They are the AH for even asking.
Nah You’re DEFINITELY NOT TAH! All I can say is ewww and 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Run girl!
NTA, his uncle is A doctor not YOUR doctor. You have the full right to not want to share medical reports with people you don’t know or even people you do know. It’s none of their business. You did the right thing.
He called you immature for not wanting to share private medical information with his entire family? And he isn’t your ex?
I’m sorry. Is there something about turning, say, 50 that makes a person suddenly comfortable sharing their medical information with any yahoo who asks?
This isn’t a maturity issue, it’s a privacy issue.
It’s weird that your bf’s family asked to see your records, but it’s 100x worse for him to chastise you for refusing.
NTA
I hope you’re referring to your EX-boyfriend- because that’s what he needs to be.
NTA. Sorry to pry but I also saw your previous post from months ago saying he criticizes your choices all the time. That sucks! I hope you know you deserve better than that treatment; clearly you did in the moment you told him to fuck off.
There are laws against this. The uncle doctor should know better. It could cost him his medical license.
NAH
It’s not so inappropriate that you can’t even ask. That’s reaching.
All you have to do is say, thanks for trying to make sure I’ve got access to every possible resource, but I’m going to stick to what I’ve got.
You do you but I don’t think this is a situation where you get angry because someone asked to help.