My cousin 27f got married over the weekend. I was a guest at my cousin’s wedding. I wore a sky blue cocktail dress to the wedding because it was a beach wedding so I thought it would be nice to wear that, but my cousin got mad.
She accused me of trying to one up her in her own wedding and trying to steal the attention. My aunt told her to calm down and said that it’s just a dress and it’s not like i’m wearing a white dress to the wedding. I’m not even wearing a necklace, earrings and heels either since my cousin would think i’m trying to one up her. It became a screaming match and my aunty, uncle and my cousin’s partner had to pull her away because she wouldn’t stop yelling at me.
I went home to avoid drama. My parents and siblings asked why I wasn’t ther and I told them what happened. They were mostly on my side but they didn’t want to get involved and I can’t blame them. They’re not on my cousins side, they just want to know what happened. I also don’t know how the guests reacted, but was I TA for wearing a sky blue dress to my cousin’s wedding?
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My cousin 27f got married over the weekend. I was a guest at my cousin’s wedding. I wore a sky blue cocktail dress to the wedding because it was a beach wedding so I thought it would be nice to wear that, but my cousin got mad.
She accused me of trying to one up her in her own wedding and trying to steal the attention. My aunt told her to calm down and said that it’s just a dress and it’s not like i’m wearing a white dress to the wedding. I’m not even wearing a necklace, earrings and heels either since my cousin would think i’m trying to one up her. It became a screaming match and my aunty, uncle and my cousin’s partner had to pull her away because she wouldn’t stop yelling at me.
I went home to avoid drama. My parents and siblings asked why I wasn’t ther and I told them what happened. They were mostly on my side but they didn’t want to get involved and I can’t blame them. They’re not on my cousins side, they just want to know what happened. I also don’t know how the guests reacted, but was I TA for wearing a sky blue dress to my cousin’s wedding?
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NTA- your cousin is insecure.
NTA and I’m going to go out on a limb and assume you’re prettier than your cousin. She’s insecure, probably jealous, and I’d be the bigger person and just say “Sorry I thought it would be appropriate for a beach wedding” and then wash my hands of it.
NTA
NTA. There is no way that dress could have ever been mistaken for being white. It looks like a great choice for a beach wedding.
NTA but you need to cut that cousin off, tell your family how pathetic they are for not defending you, and contact your aunt to thank her for sticking up for you.
I think the obvious answer is you are attractive and she is not. At least in her own head. You were showing her up by simply showing up 🤷♂️
NTA. Your cousins is
I think if you’d worn anything cute she would have been mad b/c I think you’re probably very pretty and she’s just jealous. Nothing else makes any kind of sense here.
NTA people are just plain weird!
I can’t imagine what other dress would be more perfect or appropriate to wear. Like ..it’s a very decent semi modest dress with the longer length, cute, blue like the ocean. Cousin is nutso
NTA she would have gotten mad whatever you wore. You’re likely either better looking than her, or she’s just that insecure (or both!).
Emulate Marilyn Monroe at her next wedding and wear a potato bag dress. Bet she’ll still accuse you of upstaging get.
Your cousin is too competitive with you. This is not your fault. No rules against wearing a blue dress of any shade. NTA
NTA
At first I thought maybe the dress was very attention grabbing/revealing but it seems pretty normal to me. The worst I can say about it is it’s pretty pale for sky blue but it’s still obviously blue. I agree that your cousin just might be insecure.
NTA Did she want you to show up in a burlap bag? Seems like your cousin was just looking for an excuse to start a fight about something.
NTA, OP’s dress should not have been an issue, obviously not a white dress.
INFO: what were the wedding colors?
Lord, I don’t know what your cousin was smoking, but it was strong. If you had truly wanted to upstage her, you would have worn either a) a white dress, b) a loud plaid monstrosity with a big skirt and puff sleeves, designed to look like the couch that’s been at the back of the Goodwill since 1993 and makes people wonder who shot the sofa, or c) full Goth, complete with towering platform boots and an artful selection of fishnets encasing sections of your body.
You did none of these, you wore a lovely, simple but unremarkable dress, eminently suitable for a beach wedding. My guess is that she’s been jealous a long time and it overflowed on her wedding day.
NTA
NO you are not the jerk!!!!! The bride is a massive jerk. The reality is that no matter what your wore, even a paper bag, she have been pissed. Her insecurities and jealously are not your problem to manage.
Anyone not 100% on your side are jerks. Don’t minimize the lack of support. Ignore bs reason for lack of support. This situation is completely black and white. There is no gray area.
Anyone who sided with the bride, do not invite them to any of your events. NEVER invite the bride to any of your functions. Even when its your turn to get married or have a baby shower or graduating college.
NTA
INFO Is there issues with this cousin?
That’s a simple, elegant dress that seems perfect for a beach wedding. It’s certainly one I’d consider wearing if I had the figure for it. 🩵🩵🩵
The very petty voice in me would ask “Fine, so what would you like me to wear for your next wedding?” but cutting off all but minimal contact seems more prudent here. NTA
I don’t understand why a sky blue dress upset your cousin. The AH’s are cousins and your parents.
NTA. That dress is literally a basic beach wedding guest dress. If that was enough to set her off, she was looking for a reason to be mad. You didn’t wear white, didn’t overdress, didn’t show up in heels and diamonds
You posted this same story yesterday; it was removed.
Are you hoping for a different result 24 hours later?
What the fuck? That dress is fine for almost any circumstance and looks perfect for a summer wedding. I mean, unless your buddies were completely hanging out what the heck was the problem???
She was likely having buyer’s remorse and you were the perfect punching bag because day of is kind of late to back out.
Don’t worry, you can wear that dress and slay at her upcoming divorce party.
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Your cousin is deranged
If that’s that’s the dress, I can’t see a single thing wrong with it. It’s so obviously not white and it probably was not even part of the bridal party’s colors. I see no harm. It was perfectly appropriate for a beach wedding. NTA
NTA. I think it’s a beautiful dress. Your cousin may have some insecurities she would be better off working through than taking them out on you.
The only way that dress should have upset her is if you are a big burly lumberjack type guy!
Weddings are a hell of a drug. NTA
NTA. The dress is fine, your cousin has another problem with you.
Gotta say though that I’m getting tired of these posts. Is every bride going insane nowadays?
Your cousin is insane.
The dress is beautiful, she obviously has a loose screw. Or several screws loose!
NTA. The bride was worried that a pale blue dress would photograph as white. It happens. Still, she was out of line.
No one would confuse you with the bride on the actual day. If the dress does appear white in photos, she can just edit you out. Problem solved.
She should have worn Black, like her heart.
NTA.
Sounds like your cousin has insecurities that she needs to address. She shouldn’t be getting married if she’s going to continue acting like a child.
NTA. Your cousin has major insecurities. That dress is perfect for a beach wedding.
lol you musta looked damn good in that dress to set her off like that bwhahahaha . Girl go put that dress on and take someone dancing on the beach in it. Don’t sweat your cousin.
was it a theme color for the wedding and did it match anything the groom was wearing?
If yes, did you know that ahead of time?
•yes, yta
•no, nta
If no, NTA. That is a simple, lovely dress perfectly appropriate for the occasion.
right? sometimes ppl just can’t handle someone looking good lol”
Absolutely NTA. Your cousin,on the other hand, seems to be bat shit crazy. I would go no contact with her.
NTA. That’s a pretty neutral dress and appropriate for a beach wedding. Your cousin is unhinged, was probably overwhelmed and ready to snap over something. You were the lucky person who she decided to target.
NTA🩵
NTA
You are likely more attractive than she is.