Me (20M) and my ex (19F) broke up about two weeks ago, for context, she told me she would go out with her parents for lunch in a well known mall in my city (I’m from Mexico) however, as the evening went by she started to act weird, but she kept sending pictures of what she was doing, but in one of the pictures there was the reflection of a guy that was by her side, at first i asked her who was it but she kept saying it was no one, things kind of escalated and she stopped replying my messages, i thought she was just calming down a bit, but after a while i checked her location (we both agreed at the beginning of the relationship that we would have each other’s location) and showed she was in a hotel, with this and the picture i got anxious and tried to call her (about 3-4 times) the first time the call went through but was sent to voicemail and the other 3 said that her number wasn’t available and the messages also weren’t going through. I decided that i didn’t have the energy to deal with that kind of thing and decided to block her on every social media (we were having problems before but i didn’t think they were that big) she didn’t realized for about half hour and started to call me desperately, i didn’t answer any calls, however, after a while, and a lot of missed calls from her one of her female cousins sent me a message that she was with her the hole time and with a male friend (contradicting the version of my ex saying she was with her parents) i didn’t answer that message too, but, all of the stuff that she did indicates that she was cheating. I haven’t answered any of her messages but in all of them she keeps saying that she didn’t do anything wrong.
AITAH?
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Nah, regardless what actually happened, your feelings were severely hurt and you cannot trust this person. You broke things off on a good tangent in my opinion. If you can’t trust a partner, cut them out of your life.
NTA! even if she didn’t cheat, she lied about being with her parents, while she was actually at a hotel with another guy…
Too late.
Even if she didn’t do anything, maybe now she realizes that hiding, lying etc is not something you do in a relationship.
If she tracks you down, at this point she’s had ample time to delete and cover up anything she may have done, so do not let her back in your life.
nta
cheaters lie play the victim when acting like a dick, so no. plus she says no, plus a hotel a guy, what more evidence do you need to prove shes innocent? too much, the evidence its overwhelming even circumstantially, a guy, a hotel, not replying messages, etc
The time for her to explain herself was when you asked about the guy. If she wasn’t cheating, she sure made herself look like she was.
NTA, move on and good luck.
Shes 100% playing you bro and even if she ain’t thats a lot of coincidences for her not to be cheating
Updateme
Here’s what you do (not real advice) you say you’ll only take her back if she admits to cheating and tells you who it was that way you can have closure and you can move on. Once verified you dump her because she 100% was cheating as the story is so obviously a lie and there’s no reason to do all that lying other than cheating. Presumably you wouldn’t have cared if she was there with her cousin right? So why lie? I presume you also wouldn’t have cared if she went with her cousin and the cousin had a guy friend there because that would be weirdly controlling so again why lie about that too?
I can think of a pretty simple explanation though. It starts with a c and ends with heating.
Ask her why did she say she was with her parents then? Why did she lie about the reflection being no one and not the male friend? Why was she in the hotel? Why turn her phone off so your call wouldn’t go through? Does she have any proof she was with her cousin?
Nta. Even if she didnt. She went about it in a way that ruined the trust.
Yall were in a castle looking for a way out.
She just gave you one. Move forward.
NTA. If she lies like a cheater and deflects like a cheater, she’s probably a cheater. Trust your gut.
Yeah all points to cheating. If she was with her cousin like her cousin is saying why not just say that.
Keep ignoring her bro
Have her parents call or meet with you to confirm her story if you think the relationship is worth trying to save.
She lied to you about where she was and who she was with. Shouldn’t even matter honestly if she hooked up or not
🤷♂️ gg
NTA. You handled things perfectly. Even if she wasn’t cheating, her actions and lack of clear communication were a huge red flag. Block her and move on.
Were you looking so closely at the picture to catch her cheating? So you are constantly looking for that in photos she sends you? Or was the reflection just obvious. Honestly you are both young, she shouldn’t have ignored your calls, but you shouldn’t have blocked her on everything, just have a conversation to get to the bottom of it. If this is your communication pattern on both your ends, unfortunately I don’t see this working.
There is only one reason that she would be in another guy’s hotel. She’s for the streets. Find someone who respects you. NTA
“Male friend” in a hotel, in your own city.. Yeah doesn’t look good. What did she expect?
If the relationship is important to both of you and she realizes you are emotional hurt ask her to take professional lie detector test asap. He she rufuses move on. I would do it for the women I love if there was a potential misunderstanding that would ruin our relationship.
NTA. You did the right thing. Stick to it.
It doesn’t matter if she cheated or not.. she lied to you & thinks she didn’t do anything wrong.. you’re right to break up with her just for that.
NTA. At this point, she’s committed to her story. If she was sorry…or at least sorry that she was caught…she’d have come clean by now.
NTA – she got her cousin to cover for her when she realized you were onto her cheating. Stay strong, keep NC with her and move on.
Don’t bother even answering, move on, you’re not going to get closure, she shouldn’t either don’t waste your time one someone you can’t trust.
She lied about where she was and who she was with. You saw there was a guy there right next to her and she lied to you about him too. If she was really just going out with her cousin and one of her cousin’s male friends, why lie about it? Why be defensive? That is innocent enough, no reason to lie about that. Also, what was she doing in a hotel? Again if all she was doing was hanging out with her cousin and her cousin’s friend there’s no reason to be at a hotel? She was definitely cheating and now that she’s been caught she’s trying everything to get you to believe a story that makes no sense? Don’t believe her, she’s shown you how easily she can lie and betray you so move on without her. She isn’t someone you can trust. Updateme
You taught her a valuable lesson. No games and lying
NTA, Ya whatever ever she was doing, it wasn’t what she told you what was going on and had no reas9n to lie to you if it was nothing to hide.
Did you trust her before this incident? If you did, what changed?
She cheated otherwise she wouldn’t have lied to begin with.
So no one was sat by her at a family meal 🤔. Then she goes to a hotel and cuts of contact.
Her family knew what she was doing and thats ok with them.
You did the right thing. No point in listening to lies that would have insulted you and made you feel worse.
Not many men can do that. You have my respect.
Perfect Always go no contact , it’s drives them crazy , then they will
Cry beg and blame you in that order then repeat
NTA. If she was cheating on you, then you should break up. If she wasn’t, her behavior is not how one treats a partner and I’d have broken up with a person doing that to me too.
Nope. Not the asshole.
She was cheating, her cousin is covering for her.
NTA
If it really was her cousin’s friend, she would have said so and maybe sent a pic with all three of them. And she certainly wouldn’t have been at a hotel and unreachable. She may not have actually cheated, but she lied and broke trust.
NTA
Well done. You handled her & that behavior perfectly.
Can’t let such disrespectful behaviour slide. She knew the potential consequences and she still had the audacity…I would cut her off and focus on making my life thrive more, heck ur single go test the waters and find a girl thats better than her, and trust me there are always people better than the person your dating…always.
She’s a very naughty cockroach 🪳
Nta, and odds are her friend was indeed covering for her cheating.
So lying about where you are and who you’re with doesn’t qualify as lying now?! 😂
Updateme
shes trash. you did right thing.