My husband is 37 and we’ve been together 11 years. I’m finally beginning to realize that he may have a mood disorder or some internal conflict that is unresolved. He’s the passive aggressive type and while he’s never been physically abusive to me, he’s capable of snapping a game controller, laptop, or remote in half when he’s frustrated with it. He has something negative to say about everybody and nitpicks- I wish it was as easy for him to be happy as it is to be angry. I’ve asked him to get help, but he always tries to justify his behavior. We have went to marriage counseling but I desperately need him to go to solo therapy.
Does anyone have positive experience/outcome to share about a partner willing to get help? Or is it wishful thinking that they’d ever change?
It’s hard because I’m feeling emotionally drained and tired, but I feel as his wife I should support and work with him, but doesn’t he gotta want it more than me?
TL;DR – husband isn’t interested in getting help for possible mood swings or depression and I’m emotionally exhausted. Advice?