Hey everyone,
I’m 27M, and I’ve been with my girlfriend (23F) for about 5 months now. She’s amazing — kind, understanding, supportive, and we really connect on every level. I genuinely love her, and she’s been nothing but good to me.
But things haven’t been easy. Some neighbors started talking behind our backs — spreading lies, saying we go out too much, or making comments about her character. One of them even used to be a taxi driver who drove my mom often, and I’m pretty sure he fed her some of those rumors.
Eventually, my mom told me to stop seeing her. She brought up things like how her family is “too poor” and “doesn’t even own land,” which honestly broke my heart. I never cared about any of that — she’s a good person and that’s what matters. My dad and brother are supportive, they don’t have an issue with her at all. But my mom… it’s like she’s completely changed after listening to others.
What really hurts is… I’ve always tried to put my family first. Even when I’ve had to give up on things I wanted, I did it just to keep them happy. And now that I’ve finally found something that brings me happiness, it feels like my own mom is trying to take it away. Why?
I’m stuck. I don’t want to fight with my family, but I also don’t want to lose someone I truly love — someone who’s been nothing but real with me.
TL;DR: I love my girlfriend, but my mom is against our relationship because of gossip and her family’s background. I’ve always put my family first, but now I feel like my own happiness is being taken from me.
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I’m sorry. It’s your relationship. You won’t fight with your family. It’s your mom that you will fight. When relationship begins, your partner is your number one. Unless you are one of those son who listen to whatever mother say. Like one of those horrible mother in law with son who always submits instead of supporting the wife.
What country are you from? This strikes me as a cultural thing that people from outside the culture may not get.