Basically, I met this guy on tinder and it was really great and we’ve been seeing eachother for around 2 months. For more context, I am bi/queer and this was mentioned on my tinder profile. I thought he knew this even though we’ve never talked about it before.
But I still didn’t know if he knew for sure because a couple weeks ago, we were hanging out and I was talking about how this character is my fictional character crush and he made a confused face and then relaxed and he said “oh yeah, he’s a guy”, almost as if he was relieved that the character wasn’t a girl
So this got me thinking: why would it matter if he was a girl or not since he knows I’m queer? I shrugged it off (or at least I tried to), thinking that I was overthinking it since his sibling isn’t straight either and he’s fine with it. Today, I came out to him just in case, and just to ease my concerns. And it didn’t
I basically told him: I’m not straight, I’m attracted to both guys and girls.
And he got upset about it. According to him, he’s fine with being friends with queer people. And he IS friends with a lot of queer people, but he doesn’t feel comfortable with being physically or romantically involved with a queer person. He said I should’ve said this sooner but this information was literally on my tinder profile. He says that he’s upset about it
Now, this kind of angers me because first of all, this information was available to him on my profile which I know he looked through because he pointed out some info on my profile when we first started talking. Also, why does it matter if I’m queer? It’s not like I’d ever cheat on him with a girl or ANYONE. I just don’t understand why he’s fine with having queer friends but not a queer partner? Being queer does not mean I’m polygamous.
Am I right to be mad at this?
TL;DR: I came out to the guy I was seeing and he got upset. So now I’m upset. Are my feelings valid?