So i 21/F and my partner 24/M recently moved back home from another state due to struggling financially. I move back in with my grandma and he moved back in with his parents.
My son came with me I guess it’s normal because I’m the mom so I’m the primary parent, but all he’s done ever since we’ve came back was hang out with his friends 24/7 while I stayed home with our son. So knowing our situation, which is being separated, it’s common sense to coparent since we don’t live with each other meaning he gets our son some days and I get him the other days you know typical coparenting things but my boyfriend‘s mom say that our son isn’t allowed to sleep over during the week only on the weekends.
recently, I slept over during the week with our toddler we weren’t supposed to, but I didn’t have a way home because my son didn’t have a car seat to come in the Uber with me so we had no choice but to stay there and my boyfriend‘s mom woke up furious because we were still there and rubbed me off the wrong way mind you me and my son used to live with his parents and him all of us for a year but apparently their excuse is because they work in the morning so they need to sleep at night,That’s why our son can’t sleep over but it wasn’t a problem when we were living there and they had to work.
My son sleeps through the night, but a kid is gonna be a kid, but he isn’t a bad one. He’s only 1 years old.
My boyfriend’s friend talk to him into starting school with him for music so not only is he hanging out with him 24/7 already He’s also going to school with him I explain to him how I needed help how I gotta start over because of the big move we did and how I need a job and how I need help with our son, but apparently he’s too busy to watch him some days, well most days I don’t know what to do. I am emotionally checking out of this relationship it feels like I’m a single mom so what’s the point of being together?
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>I am emotionally checking out of this relationship it feels like I’m a single mom so what’s the point of being together?
Hey, good question!
I’d recommend you speak to a family attorney about custody and child support.
And think about what sort of man you want your son to grow up to be, because if you stay with your boyfriend, you’ll be modeling that to him. He might still pick up behavior from his father if you leave but he’ll at least see that women can choose not to stick around and be treated like an afterthought. And you might meet a man who can be a positive role model.