One simple question: would your partner know where to find a spare pillowcase in your house? If you asked them right now, would they know exactly where to go and could they change the bedding themselves? Or would they have to ask you where it is, which set to choose, etc. etc.? Interested to hear as apparently this is a way to see if you are taking on too much of the emotional load in your relationship / if you’re in an equal relationship or not. I asked my partner (M35) and he knew, but then he also never independently changes the bed!
TL;DR: Does your partner know where the spare bedding is kept?
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Seems pretty basic to know where it’s kept. Which set to choose is more up to preference.
Since he does the laundry, he definitely does. I know where everything is kept because I decided which pieces of furniture would go where and what they’d be used for. But the only time either one of us can’t find something we need for daily/weekly use is usually because my ADHD self was bringing it somewhere and forgot where I put it down.
He also knows which are the pillowcases I like to use for my hair/skin (I bought some silk pillowcases), and why I bought them, and how to wash them.
He does and I would leave a man who doesn’t.
No, he wouldn’t. But he’s also the one that would think to wash them and ask me to switch the covers so he can do the wash, and then clean the toilets, and then cook dinner, etc etc.
I use my superpower to keep everything organized and put away, he reminds me to do my chores when I forget.
So the question is why doesn’t my 35m bf independently change the bed? Does he help out when asked to do it together tho? How do you feel about how everything is split?
He doesn’t, mostly because I don’t apply these kind of mind game tests.
Every time I hear about men, I’m amazed.
How is the ‘Linen Drawer Test’ a thing? What kind of ‘man’ fails that? What are women doing staying with ‘men’ who fail it?
Yes with flying colours.
Yes he would I work away every 2 weeks so I know he changes bed as it smells nice.
Yeah. I couldn’t find my own shoes today so l wouldn’t hold it against him if he couldn’t find a pillow case. Still haven’t found the shoes.
He was the last person to change the bedding so yep he definitely knows, and will independently decide to change the bedding when it needs done. We both have that capability!
Does your partner know about the spare fuse test
These kinds of ‘tests’ are nonsense, frankly. It is indicative of nothing.
Of course he does. The only things he asks about are things ice recently bought, or things he’s misplaced himself. I don’t think this is a good litmus for a good partner btw, because my ex was the sweeper and the bed changer, and did literally nothing else in the home, was emotionally and financially abusive and eventually cheated on me, so…