I’m wondering if what I’m feeling is some form of hidden resentment. My best friend [23F] and I [24F] have been close for nearly 10 years. But lately, I feel annoyed, distant, even angry toward her—and I don’t know why it’s hitting me so hard.
A while ago, she started dating a guy I didn’t like (hear me out!) Eventually, she found out he had lied to her about having an incurable STD—he only admitted it after she accused him of cheating. I told her about how if he’s going to lie about something like that, it’ll get worse, so drop him, but she didn’t.
Time passes (about a year) she publicly posted video proof about him abusing her, but a couple weeks later still took him back—and told our other best friend to NOT tell me. She’s also talking to another man who’s cheating on his pregnant partner. It’s hard to even recognize her sometimes.
Her choices are painful to watch. I’ve stopped trying to give advice. I’ve stepped back. But I still feel this tight mix of sadness, anger, and confusion. I love her, but I feel awful for having these thoughts. I just don’t want her or her daughter to get hurt or worse, I hate this.
Is this resentment? Or just heartbreak watching someone I care about spiral? Or maybe im just a control freak sigh, How do I let it go?
TLDR!!!
Been feeling distant, sad, and lowkey irritated with my best friend of 10 years. She’s made choices that worry me, especially involving toxic relationships, and I’ve stepped back. I love her, but lately I’ve had thoughts I feel guilty about. Not sure if it’s hidden resentment or just emotional burnout from caring too much.