Last night my boyfriend asked what was wrong, and I told him. I wasn’t shouting or being aggressive. I was literally just trying to talk about how I felt, like he always says he wants. But as soon as I started explaining, he said, “I’m not arguing,” and it completely shut me down. I went to sleep upset, woke up the same, and now he’s asking again what’s wrong.
I told him “I tried to talk last night, but you made it seem like I was arguing so what’s the point?” He replied, “I didn’t think it was that meaningful,” and then “I didn’t think it was that deep tbf.”
Now he’s sending me Instagram stories about “having to deal w my mood” which just feels like he’s minimizing everything again and making it about him “dealing” with me, when he’s the one who didn’t listen.
I told him I’ve muted his notifications until tomorrow bc this has been going on since last night. How do you keep trying to communicate when it always ends like this?
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Throw the whole man out 😂
Classic: “Communicate, but only if it’s easy and doesn’t actually challenge me.” Dude’s not ready to hear you, just wants to control the narrative. You’re not overreacting, you’re just talking to a wall that calls talking “arguing.” Keep your distance till he figures out how to listen.
You don’t. He doesn’t want to communicate.
ignore him and if he doesn’t like that then leave. he shouldn’t be mad because you’re doing what he told you to do.
You guys are speaking the same communication language. Find someone who isn’t an ass , to date
I’m dealing with this right now trust me I get how it feels. If you say how you feel then you get met with: “you’re over reacting” “stop moaning” “you always want to start an argument” “we’ve been so good why do you wanna ruin that”…. And if you don’t say how you feel: “talk to me” “what kind of relationship are we gonna have if you don’t tell me how you feel”… or he gets angry at you. It’s so exhausting. And honestly I think the right conclusion is: if you’re with the right person then they wouldn’t treat you like that. When men love you, they want to hear why you’re upset so they can stop doing whatever it is that hurts you. They wouldn’t get angry at you for being upset, not even a friend would treat you like that… so why are you letting someone who is supposed to love you.
You’re both 18? Yea, throw his ass out, he’s a fucking jerkwad.
Not the one.
It sounds like you’re constantly trying to bridge a gap that he’s not willing to cross and that’s exhausting… what does it take for him to realize that listening isn’t a burden but a basic part of being in a relationship?