I 21( f) and my bf 21 (m) was in a relationship for about 3 years. Well I serperated with the love of my life because of various reasons piling up. One of the major one was that there was nthng common between us that we could enjoy except travel but the expenses held us back. He likes spicy tangy chips like bingo chili and indian blue lays but I like onion and cream or cheesy chips. He loves video games like Minecraft, cyberpunk etc but I love reading comics. He loves to cuddle but since I’m fat I always felt hot so I couldn’t cuddle and sleep. The place had no a/c coz we were students. He loves horror movies but I like romantic books, series and movies. He’s an introvert and in an extrovert for the first few days of interaction. He likes rmb or vibey English music but I love traditional powerful or hella beat music. He doesn’t know how to dance and I dance. So partying is a mess because of our taste differences. He has asthma and it triggers often even if he laughs so hard. He loves fruity icecreams but I prefer cookie and cream or butterscotch. He hates strawberry flavor and I love it.
He loves to workout and I hate it but I love walks and he hates walks. He doesn’t properly take care of his hair and wants to grow it out but I hate it grown out.
I know I sound weird but I want to learn what he loves and likes. I need help to start. Trust me when I say this that man is worth all my efforts as imma keep waiting for this guy coz he has treated me so softly with so much love till he got exhausted. I still love him and I strive to find things that could work between us. I’ll keep waiting for him coz loosing him is not worth it rather I want to find something to do in common when he returns.
Tl;Dr : I’m striving to truly love that man even if it takes years to get him back.
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So I don’t think this is the way to do it. You shouldn’t become your partner, that’s horrible. Instead you learn to accept that they have other interest than yours and you partake in those because you love them. Same as they should do with your interest. For example, if I decide to to fishing with my partner it’s not me forcing myself to like fishing, it’s me fishing as a way to spend time with them and maybe even learn something new.
Relationships need balance, they shouldn’t be one sided and you shouldn’t be dating a copy of yourself. Having someone who is different than you isn’t a bad thing, it’s good (most of the time). In some instances it can be bad but I don’t see that issue here.