Hi y’all! I (f22) need advice pretty badly. I have a coworker (m27) that I found extremely attractive during the summer. He works for the summer camp at my job, so that’s where I’ve been seeing him the most. He has another job within the company, but the hours he works don’t overlap with mine so I don’t see him as often during the other seasons. Thankfully, I too am working summer camp this year so I can see him more.
On to the story, so I found out he was interested in getting to know me through a mutual friend and said he wanted me to make the first move. We barely talked at this point so I didn’t know what he meant, so I found his IG and followed him and sent a DM. We started chatting until he abruptly left me on seen. I was a bit defeated cause it was a good Convo we had. Then our mutual friend said how he felt bad for doing that but didn’t know how to come back from it. This is where I made my first mess up, I double texted to try to keep the conversation going, and I kept doing that for a week until I realized I wasn’t getting the same energy back and I was exhausted. He kept saying how he’s been trying to talk to me during work to get to know me, but I told him at work, I only focus on work, and to take me out if he wanted to really get that 1 on 1 time. He left me on seen after he agreed to doing that and I asked what he had in mind. So all I did was go through with my day and only talk to him when he talked to me first. He got annoyed that I was giving him the cold shoulder and told our mutual friend and asked why I was mad at him. So this confused me. Finally, I made my second mistake and asked where his head was at regarding his interest. He said he didn’t know anymore since he moves slow and wanted to get to know work me. I said that was fair, but I didn’t like having to chase after someone. So I let it be. I started having people tell me that he was no good and was just hoeing around, so I wasn’t really feeling up to us as I want someone serious. So this week I’ve been treating him like a normal friend, lots of teasing, friendly shoves, etc. Its been fun not feeling nervous around him anymore and really being my true self. Now onto today. Our campers made little rainbow loom bracelets, and he had a few made for him. We went somewhere and he left one by accident that I found and put on because I thought it was another camper’s. He saw me with it on and smiled and was like bruh. I was confused so I asked what and he said nah nothing. Then I found out it was his and asked if he wanted it back and he said no. Now this morning I was working my other job when I found another bracelet that wasn’t there earlier the morning with a similar size to the first one. He was around the area I was at and as a joke I asked if he dropped another one. He replied with no, do you think I’m dropping them around in random places for you to find them? And laughed. Of course I said no but was skeptical because it was in a place where no kids could have been, and it showed up randomly when he was in the same vicinity. I asked another coworker if it was theirs so I’m waiting for a reply right now. I just need advice on what to do from here? Please help!
TL;DR
I think I like my coworker who i may have pushed away from being too pushy over DMs, but now I’m getting mixed signals, or I could be delusional about some things. Please help!